if he didn't ask for my number does he not like me

[sparkly]

I liked this same man for ages. he is 16 years older. we worked together until recently because he left. i was and still am upset. He invited me to go out with him and our other coworkers for his last day. i said ok and was there with him until he left. He hugged me and said thankyou for coming and we'll have to keep in contact through our mutual friends. He didn't say it just once but 3 or 4 times in the past week. he asked me if i was going to the christmas party.but he didn't ask for my number. why?

[blender]

We might need a bit more info...

 

How much do you know about him really? Do you know anything about his personal life? Is he living alone? Divorced? Living with someone? Is he a generally seemingly an emotionally healthy guy who speaks his mind? Do you know if he's an "honest man"? Do you respect and admire his CHOICES in life?

 

You said you "liked him for ages"...and you worked together, well how long is "ages" and what kind of "friendship/work relationship" did you have during all this time?

[sparkly]

I know a fair bit about him. He isn't married,he came close once but didn't. he got someone pregnant but they aborted it. we worked together for 3 years. and 2 out of those 3 he was overly flirty and suggestive at times. other people would watch us aswell.

[DanielJW]

How old are the 2 of you though? It may be that he does like you but he hasn't made a real move because he's not comfortable with a 16 year age difference, or doesn't think you would be.

 

Just a thought.

[sparkly]

i don't think that would bother him. i did call him old alot though.

[DanielJW]

i did call him old alot though.

 

Always a good way to get a guy to like you

[Lucy_lou]

I can't tell, but I think people are often a bit nervous about the number swapping thing. Afraid of crossing the line. Reading your post, I was wondering why you hadn't said "we should get each other's numbers." If you see him again (through your mutual friends), and all goes well, maybe you should. He might be apprehensive about the age, and feel like he has no right to get too friendly with someone so much younger, (especially when you've emphasised it calling him old). Sounds like you both like each other, and he's just acting appropriately, and behaving himself. If you really really want to keep in contact, and you won't see him accidentally, why not go out on a limb, get his number off one of your mutual friends, call him (and say "I hope you don't mind, I got your number off ..." ) and ask him out (if you think that's appropriate)... you know best though.

[sparkly]

well i am definitely planning to see him again. so i may. i think i shouldn't have called him old.

[Jeen]

Well I agree with Lucy lou. I think he is only a bit apprehensive because of the job change, and don't really know what it will bring to the relationship you had sow fare, show him you still are interested by phoning him or as him out what do you have to loose.

[ghost69]

i don't think he likes you in that way.