My ex has a gf 2 weeks after break

[LilBear]

He said that she's there when he's down. He said if only I'd call him sooner but I was in NC for sometime. He said he's confused right now, but he'll go with her.

 

What should I do? Anyone? SuperDave?

[Atticus90]

Classic case here. When he needed someone to be there for him, she was obviously there at the time, so he got attached.

 

If he took a break and got somebody else during that time, then he's not worth it.

[samross]

It sounds like to some extent he's trying to put a guilt trip on you. Maybe not maliciously but that's how I would take it. You obviously still care becasue you're asking for direction and you were in NC so you must have had a good reason. Let him be confused for now. It doesn't mean you have to hurt him or rub the NC in his face. If he is saying he's going with her then for you the best thing would be to back off and let him find his way back to you. Is she a rebound? If so, it may not last and he will need to see you are the strong and solid one. The one he will want to turn to.

[emalkoc]

if he is confused, go NC...dissepear for about 3-4 weeks...if he contacts you, tell him unless he wants to be with you, you cannot be friends anymore...

 

Cheers

 

Eric

[LilBear]

It wasn't a break

It was a break up.

 

He goes with her because she was there supporting him and all when he's having problems with me.

 

I asked for another chance, he said if only you'd ask sooner.

[programmer]

Well, he managed to not have sex with you in 3 years. So if this issue will be the same, then you don't have much to worry about. But if he has sex with the new girl, then it means he dropped you because of that, and he wasn't patient enough. Depends on what kind of guy he is.

[samross]

I say guilt trip. I would almost being willing to say game playing on his part. Until his responds as a mature person I wouldn't feel you have to go to him and try something else to get him back. If anything is going to help it's NC. For you. And if it helps the relationship, it will be becasue it will show him his game playing has back-fired on him.

[LilBear]

Any idea as to what I should do now?

I already told him I can't contact him now so going into NC.

[Atticus90]

It wasn't a break

It was a break up.

 

He goes with her because she was there supporting him and all when he's having problems with me.

 

I asked for another chance, he said if only you'd ask sooner.

 

When there's a break up, you both are no longer tied together in the knot.

He probably meant it when he said about asking sooner. Nobody should be left dangling without any answer of some sort, so he probably did what he had to do is move on.

 

And that's what you should do to.

[LilBear]

He said that he didn't go looking, it came a-knocking.

Is this just a rebound?

I honestly do want to move on..help

[zipuzappa]

Sorry to say that, but he is doing the mind * * * * . I would say he has no respect for u. If you want to be his door mat try to get him back. Else just move on.

You are his plan B. Keeping you on hold while trying this new girl.

My Ex wanted to do the same, I didn't give her the pleasure. Rebound or not is irrelevant. Its about you.

[LilBear]

I'm not trying to get him back

I wished him all the happiness and said that I can't contact him for awhile because I have to get 'me' back.

 

Just wondering if the girl is a rebound.

[SeaBisquit]

i think he is putting you in a position to see just how much you really care about him. trying to make you a little jealous and uncomfortable.

[samross]

IMHO the other girl is a rebound. Has to be. Otherwise he would have waited. In a way it shows he's desparate. In any case whether she's rebound or not the best thing for now is NC and move on since that's what you want to do.

[LilBear]

Why would he want to make me jealous and uncomfortable?

He said he's giving this girl a chance?

 

This is both our first relationship.

It was 3 years.

 

I want to win him back.

I understand that I've hurt him.