Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I love to read "romance" novels. I admit, I'm a "hopeless" for those types of stories, especially when plotted in the early 1800's. You know, when the man is rich and powerful and almost always handsome, and if he's not, his charming personality makes up for it. Then he meets the woman of his "dreams", and she is almost always a governess, or someone from "lower class" society and takes her in as his own. Yup! I love em'. So... I have been pandering on this thought all day long. In these novels, the lust and passion always seems so "pleasing" and the author usually goes into full detail. Back in the 1800's, I'm sure doggy style probably wasn't a common position? And people just had a lack of knowledge when it came to sex. Well, women did, anyway. Doesn't that just make it seem so...so...good!?! Especially when the man is powerful and demanding, yet sweet and charming. I like when the man has all the power and the woman is usually submissive in bed. If that's even the proper term? It just seems so hard to actually build that type of lust and passion in my own relationship today, because I am so independent. Must I start acting submissive to achieve that type of passion?
Ash Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 It's completely possible for you to be submissive in bed yet independent in other aspects of your life. Nothing at all wrong in being that way. If that's what works for you then try being that way. Communicate with your partner (if you currently have one) to let him know what you think you'd like. Not all guys can take the powerful role you're looking but there are many who can or do. As for sex in the 1800's I'm sure there was all sorts of things going on like they do now, it was just never talked about, photographed etc.
rootcause43 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Doggie style has been around since man first walked the earth.
Ash Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Doggie style has been around since man first walked the earth. Or since dogs first walked the earth ... (Sorry, couldn't resist!)
someguy88 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Have you talked to your bf about this? Guys want to please their gf's. I know I've been in relationships where I was the one with all the power and I would "take her" and others where I was the submissive and she was the one forcing herself on me. It never really mattered which role I took so long as we were having sex. lol I'm sure a lot of guys feel this way.
Clementine orange Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Apes do it doggy style. One popular theory of mankind is that we evolved from them. thereforeeee... Romance novels..not based on any kind of reality I'm afraid. Some peeps are submissive other dominant, most change back and forth according to the mood.
Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 It's completely possible for you to be submissive in bed yet independent in other aspects of your life. Nothing at all wrong in being that way. If that's what works for you then try being that way. Communicate with your partner (if you currently have one) to let him know what you think you'd like. Not all guys can take the powerful role you're looking but there are many who can or do. As for sex in the 1800's I'm sure there was all sorts of things going on like they do now, it was just never talked about, photographed etc. Very true. It wasn't talked about much, and to me, that just makes it all the better. Now, sex is "overrated" and some people don't even take it as a serious part of their relationship. There are three things that all relationships need though, and passion is one of them. The other two are communication and companionship. Thank you for your insight. I will talk to my boyfriend about this. Or I can just put on my best lingerie and seduce him to the point where he can't handle himself. I'll try that.
Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 Apes do it doggy style. One popular theory of mankind is that we evolved from them. thereforeeee... Romance novels..not based on any kind of reality I'm afraid. Some peeps are submissive other dominant, most change back and forth according to the mood. What do you mean they're not based on "reality"? Romance has been around since "Adam" and "Eve". You don't believe in two people sharing passion and lust the way they two people people do in romance novels?
Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 Doggie style has been around since man first walked the earth. And that is why I would've loved to live during medieval times, only for the sex though. I couldn't take being treated like a 'nobody', because that's what women were faced with in those times. But "SEX" during those times was probably great! They didn't talk about it, they just felt it. I'm not saying that I probably can't achieve that in my own relationship now, but my boyfriend watches porn and we're always hearing about "sex this" and "sex that". It's not a secret and it doesn't make it some "mysterious" cherished thing anymore.
ghost69 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 no. submissiveness can be selflessness too. i like a woman to take control during too.
Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 no. submissiveness can be selflessness too. i like a woman to take control during too. Thank god I'm far from "selflessness".. I have a lot issues, but being aware of myself and loving myself is one thing that I will always have the pleasure of doing and no one can ever take away. As far as you wanting to be "controlled" in the bed, that's great! I'm happy to hear that you are so willing to disclose this information to a stranger, you must have really good communication in bed? I think that's a plus! Keep it up!
Ash Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Also keep in mind that submissiveness is completely different than being disrespected.
ghost69 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Thank god I'm far from "selflessness".. I have a lot issues, but being aware of myself and loving myself is one thing that I will always have the pleasure of doing and no one can ever take away. As far as you wanting to be "controlled" in the bed, that's great! I'm happy to hear that you are so willing to disclose this information to a stranger, you must have really good communication in bed? I think that's a plus! Keep it up! i say stuff sometimes. dirty talk. depends on the mood. sometimes it's just all about the woman and i don't get greedy with the pleasure. i'm not that submissive, but i like some control by the woman. it's a turn on when a woman holds down my arms and just goes to town on it. even though i could totally toss her out the window. lol. i just find it such a fun time. yes, sex is fun and it should be.
Clementine orange Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 What do you mean they're not based on "reality"? Romance has been around since "Adam" and "Eve". You don't believe in two people sharing passion and lust the way they two people people do in romance novels? Well, I haven't read alot of romance novels so I'm not an expert. However I do know that the book ends before the hard work of relationships begin.
Inspirational Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 Well, I haven't read alot of romance novels so I'm not an expert. However I do know that the book ends before the hard work of relationships begin. hahaha...very true. I would love to find a book that goes on forever, but I can't, so the authors usually get to the good part and end it at that.
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