Why do they give out mixed signals?????

[sfindependent]

... but my ex (whom I've not spoken to since thanksgiving upon her wishes) just got back from Hawaii and texted me stating

 

"are you going to work tomorrow?" to which i texted back a plain

 

"Yes, I am" to which she replied

 

"Ok, if you have time, stop by my office i got a bday hawaii present but im probably leaving at 3" to which i replied

 

"Oh cool, Thanks!"

 

my birthday was in OCTOBER

 

We work together and since we've been NC, I've been feeling anxious about seeing her at work. But, I love my job, and I don't want to make things anymore difficult than it is by avoiding her, making an ass of myself and making things difficult for both of us to work. So, tomorrow, I'm going to thank her properly, and give her my gift (I got her a christmas tree for her apartment) and go back to work.

 

I'm not going let this bother me. I'm not going to get my hopes up. I've made a choice. We're done. We're done. We're done. She's made her choice, and I've made mine. I'm just going to be a bigger man by not acting upon my raw feelings.

 

as I've said before, be like a swan, swim gracefully above, but paddling like crazy below.

[parralax]

Your good grace is awesome - hope it works out.

 

My interpretation of that conversation is that she wants to give you a gift because you are friends.

 

If she is ending the NC and wants to be friends that's good if you are comfortable, not so good if you are not ready yet. You were talking about hope - so maybe you aren't. Tell her if you aren't ready to be friends, especially if she is the one who made the decision to break up with you. You need to be able to set the timetable in that case (at least that's what I reckon).

 

Don't hang on and on to that job if it gets really hard though, there are some things that are not worth it in the long run...