Jealous about my boyfriend's female co-woker

[christie383]

My boyfriend usually just works with guys, in construction. But he got this new job and theres a girl that works with him. I know there is nothing going on but i cant help but let it bother me that he works with a girl all day. Shes the same age as me and Ive seen pictures of her and she pretty. I just cant help but get jealous and i think about it all the time. I know they do alot of crew activites, so they have hung out alot after work and he has her number on his cell. He's talked about her alittle bit like she's really nice and a really down to earth person and hearing this just made it worse. I know theres nothing going on and its stupid but ive been letting it bother me so much that Ive started to feel really insecure about myself. Why do I feel this way and how can I make it stop.

[Censored]

You are insecure because you think she is more attractive than you, and you also realise that we generally spend more time with the people we work with than our own partners.

 

Things happen at workplaces all the time, doesn't mean it is happening.

 

You are probably praying for him to say what an ugly, rude mole she is, and that he can't stand her.

 

Trust your boyfriend here, and certainly don't let him know that you are becoming insecure.

[Wedgewood]

Christie has a point. If he starts complimenting her too much she should watch out. Watch for any changes in behavior from him, the way he treats her, his sexual desire, etc. Also see if he suddenly disappears or starts having "happy hours". Prevention is the best thing. Women have an instinct for these things and usually when they don't feel very conforatble with something they are right.

 

Keep your eyes open. There may be nothing, but statistics on work related romances are quite bad.

[Mavh25]

I have been in this situation.

 

Like niceguy says, I wanted him to come home telling me what a minger and snob she was, but he did'nt. He used to go out to lunch with her everyday and she was lovely.

 

It got to such a bad point for me that I had to find out what she was like and what he was like with her that I got a plan setup and found out. It was nothing and you can imagine the absolute embaressment I had in myself and my boyfriend also had.

 

Thing is, you're just feeling threatened by her, trust me your reaction to this can ruin your relationship so just be careful. There is no need to even start lookin for signals you'll just end up in such an anxious mess that you wont be any good.

 

You just HAVE to forget about it, you trust him and I know you need reassurance from him that your nicer, prettier, funnier whatever but he won't because he does'nt feel like he has to, which means he is'nt even thinkin about it. Don't worry, unless there is a surefire event that gets you thinkin'

 

Its dead hard not to worry and think about it, I used to get visions of them laughing together and i'd panic that he'd realise she was better than me and kiss her or something! It was so silly looking back.

 

But you gotta try =(