Why is it hard to say "I love you"?

[i miss her 2]

When I talk to my gf on the phone I feel anxious or something to tell her I love her and I think maybe she feels the same way. Why is this? I know that I really do love her...I mean I was devastated when we were apart and I love everything about her so I don't know why it's hard to tell her I love her. Maybe it's because I usually don't tell anyone else I love them? I don't know. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable when I say it and I don't want to appear uncomfortable either.

[pinkelephant]

well it's a big step in a relationship! you're right to be nervous.

 

 

maybe while youre cuddling, try to slip in a love you and see if it comes any easier?

[toshiba]

You feel anxious because:

 

(1) You don't know if it will be reciprocated.

 

(2) It makes you vulnerable to rejection and hurt.

[i miss her 2]

yeah, but we say this everyday lol. And I think maybe I'm just paranoid about the way I say it too. Like, I wonder if I sound like I don't mean it or if I'm anxious about saying it. The joys of social anxiety...

[Scootchy]

If you aren't already, look her in the eyes when you say it. Just keep at it, it will get easier every time. Practice makes perfect.

[Shiranai]

I boyfriend didn't say it until he was dead drunk. Then he claimed to not remember a thing. (I've been drunk before. Don't pretend you don't know! >

 

It's hard for people because the word carries so much meaning.

 

It's always been hard for me to say it because I feel if I say it too much it'll have less weight.