yeawutever Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 To make story short, there was on two occasions in which I got into an argument with my mother and I hit her (not hard but was still wrong). It was already a long while ago but how can I get over what I did. I'm referring to me, myself. Obviously I'm not gonna bring this issue to mom, I don't wanna talk about it anymore. And I'm positively sure it's never to occur again.
bpsekh Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 To make story short, there was on two occasions in which I got into an argument with my mother and I hit her (not hard but was still wrong). It was already a long while ago but how can I get over what I did. I'm referring to me, myself. Obviously I'm not gonna bring this issue to mom, I don't wanna talk about it anymore. And I'm positively sure it's never to occur again. IMHO, you're running from yourself if you don't talk to her about it. At least go to her with a sincere, heartfelt apology, and tell her you didn't mean to do it. Tell her it's never going to happen again, then maybe do something nice for your mother.
Hope75 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I too wonder if you might feel better about the situation by bringing it up with your mom. I think it's going to haunt you until you do. Just tell her you realize how wrong it was and it hurts you that you hurt her and you want to apologize. I think you will feel like a weight has lifted once you do.
yeawutever Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 I too wonder if you might feel better about the situation by bringing it up with your mom. I think it's going to haunt you until you do. Just tell her you realize how wrong it was and it hurts you that you hurt her and you want to apologize. I think you will feel like a weight has lifted once you do. I knew you were gonna say that, thanx Hope. Now the first time it happened I did tell her all that you just wrote me and inform it wasn't gonna happened again but it did. The second time I say nothing (in that moment I was feeling like she deserved it), now many months later I realize she didn't deserve it. It's just that I don't wanna sound like those abusers that apologize over and over and end up doing it again, never keeping their promises. Then one time I did snap at my little brother (I was shaking him hard and slamming him on the carpet) and well b/f saw this and got scare. At the time I didn't think that was something to be scare. When I asked him why, I was amaze by his response ''Cuz what if I one day get you annoy, then you would snap at me too since you hit your brother and mom''. In the end I know you don't hit your loved ones.
Hope75 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 It sounds like this had been a repeated issue with you Ailec- and that is a dangerous trend to follow. Hitting your mom and brother is unacceptable and not a way to solve conflict, as I can see you now recognize. Your boyfriend is right- why should he be any different than your other loved ones that you have hurt? Have you thought about anger management courses or some sort of counseling? Sounds like you could really use it.
yeawutever Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 Have you thought about anger management courses or some sort of counseling? Sounds like you could really use it. Actually I'm working on myself but this time I know it ain't happening again, that I'm sure. I know now how to control my anger.
RelaxByWater84 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Actually I'm working on myself but this time I know it ain't happening again, that I'm sure. I know now how to control my anger. How do you know that it won't happen again? If I were you whenever you get into an argument with your mother I would stand at one side of the room and her at the other side.
yeawutever Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 How do you know that it won't happen again? Cuz I know now how to control my anger unless I were to get really drunk which won't happened either.
Hope75 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 Ailec, You thought after the first time you hit your mom it would not happen again, but it did. Now you are saying the same thing again. How can you be sure? I don't see how you 'knowing how to control your anger' changing anything. There is a difference between knowing something and applying it and putting it into practice. What will you do differently?
yeawutever Posted December 7, 2007 Author Posted December 7, 2007 What will you do differently? Walk away if it gets too heated up then talk again when I'm more calm.
Hope75 Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 That's a good strategy and a good start. What else?
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