i don't know whats going on..

[zecchinox1]

My boyfriend and I met about a year ago and a half ago and he is 21 and I just recently turned 18. In the beginning he was so sweet and always wanted to spend time with me and I was really outgoing and aggressive towards him. He’d take me out to lunch and then pick me up after school and then come over after he got off work. After a few weeks we just clicked and we both felt like we honestly loved each other. We’d just drive around town or sit on his bed and talk… We’d go out/ or stay in and watch movies or he’d come over and hang out with my family. He was kind of jealous about other boys I had as friends, which I understand. So I told him there wasn’t anything to worry about and I thought he believed me… We started fighting a lot after that. I honestly can’t pin point what it was all about now, but it hasn’t stopped for months.

So now I feel like he’s pulled away, he doesn’t want to hang out as often. He doesn’t say I love you much and doesn’t talk about our “future” together anymore. He used to tell me all the time he wanted to get married and just live together. We used to be intimate all the time also, and now he never wants to. He also bought me a promise ring to prove how much he loved me, after a huge fight we had about his old love wanting him back. I’ve never pushed real hard for the marrying and all that because I wanted us to live together to see if we were still happy before hand. I’ve asked him if he’s fallen out of love with me, but says he hasn’t and doesn’t want to lose me.

I’m the kind of girl that disappears when she has a boyfriend. I just want to spend most of my time with my guy and I don’t really care much about friends. He used to not “need” his friends so badly and used to always pick hanging out with me. But now, I feel like I’m definitely second priority to his friends (the married couple) and he always talks about how much fun he has with them and how he wants to hang out with them.

I know this is pretty vague... but I was wondering if you guys had any advice on what may be going on. I don’t really have anyone to talk to and my boyfriend apparently isn’t all that open communication wise with me anymore. Perhaps I’m just too clingy? Should I start going out with friends more often?

- Sorry its sorta long!

[SapphireNoir10]

If you want to make it work. Talk it throught with him. Tell him how you feel. If hes still unresponsive try going out with friends more. Guys dont really like clingyness. Well some do. Its just sometimes degrees of clingyness differ between two partners...Just talk to him!

[zecchinox1]

I have... He just says people change.

But I will try again =) thanks.

[servedcold]

I’m the kind of girl that disappears when she has a boyfriend. I just want to spend most of my time with my guy and I don’t really care much about friends.

 

This behavior is going to end up causing problems in the long run for you IMO. Always keep your life and friends in order while involved in a relationship. It prevents things from getting stale and allows you to miss your S.O. and find the time spent together more special. So yes, definitely, reconnect with friends and have a social life independent of your BF and all futue BFs.