men knocking on my door hassling me when they see my BF hasnt been round for a while

[cheekychic]

i moved to my area a year ago. it was a spur of the moment decision that i felt very pressured to make and i feel it was the wrong choice as i dont fit in with the ppl round here. everyone knew each other and i have been liek the outcast. the kids are horrible and are nasty to my 3 year old daughter, you dont wanna get on the wrong side of anyone as you may be asking for a punch in the face, every problem is resolved with hurting someone and you have status if you are "tough" GRRR

if i had known what it was like round here i would have never moved.

 

when me and the BF go through rough periouds and he doesnt come over so often, the guys round here notice and then start trying to get in with me... especialy lif they are drunk.

ive had one guy try to grab me by the crotch and stick his tongue in my mouth as well as random guys knocking on the door asking for my number etc. its ohrrible as im a single mum living alone, i feel very uncomfortable in my own home.

 

as you may or may not know.. i have been going through rough period with BF and we are not together but we are suppsoed to be seeing how things go.

i guess it has been notcied as i just had a knock on the door from a drunk guy making up some crappy excuse about why he was there n then asking to come in for a cup of tea, i said not and he kept trying to persuade me to let him in.. eventualyl my 3 year old daughter heard from upstairs and called down to ask who it was so i said i better go and see what she wants and then he gave me his number and told me to give it to a friend of mine (he knows i know her) and i betetr get her to call him later on tonight or he will be round again. he said that in a jokey way but i still felt uncomfortable

 

 

i came upstair and text the on/off BF about it. we have had minimal contact for last 2 days n we have jsut kept convo light but i text and said "i need you here, ive jsut had more guys knocking on the door xxx"

i was hoping he would go into protection mode but he jsut text back "who bloody father ted lol" as if it was a joke

i text back telling him that im glad he thinks it sfunny when i feel very uncomfortable n i wouldnt come to him for sympathy next time.

he text tellign me to chiill out and stop starting on him and that i should jsut find it funny that guys can think they can waltz up to the door and expect they are gonna get anywhere with me.

i told him to ask his mum how she would feel if she was a single mum on her own and she had men knocking on the door at night asking to come in for a cup of tea.

 

he hasnt text back after that but i feel it was really insenstive and i so wanted him to act a bit more protective and act as if he was genuinly worried etc

do u think i am over reacting and that i should just find it funny that guys expect they have a chance with me just coz they havent seen my Bf's care parked in the drive way for a few weeks??? was it silly of me to hope and expect he'd act protective????

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

the hell kind of area you live in?

 

im going to forgo logical advice

 

grab a can of bear mase, they knock you spray.

[amtjrtcet]

You don't have to answer when they knock. Do you live in a house? Get a Rottweiller. They work better then a man.

[flower99]

^^ yeah a dog is a good plan & more loyal than a man..lol (:

Wow that sounds like a terrible place to live....when is the earliest you can move? cause i definietly think you should. That's scarey. And you should feel safe in your own home, especially when you got a 3 year to care for.

[Shiranai]

MOVE!

 

It irritates me to no end when parents or PEOPLE choose to live in areas like that or raise their children in places like that.

 

You do not need to put your safety and your daughter in danger.

 

The same men that are trying to "get in with you" (I'd call that trying to rape you), may be the people that try to "get in" with your 3 year old daughter.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

You don't have to answer when they knock. Do you live in a house? Get a Rottweiller. They work better then a man.

 

I second that. Are you financially able to move because if so, I would think that you should move to a safer neighbourhood, especially for your daughter's sake.

[southerngirl]

Yes get a big dog.

 

Even if its the nicest dog in the world it will bark when someone comes to the door.

 

They knock. Dog barks.... LOUD.... You dont answer, even if they know you are home you still dont answer.

 

They will stop knocking.

[amtjrtcet]

Yes get a big dog.

 

Even if its the nicest dog in the world it will bark when someone comes to the door.

 

They knock. Dog barks.... LOUD.... You dont answer, even if they know you are home you still dont answer.

 

They will stop knocking.

 

Exactly, my rottie is a baby right now, but her bark is already fierce!

 

They scare people away, I'd advise every single woman have a dog.

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

Exactly, my rottie is a baby right now, but her bark is already fierce!

 

They scare people away, I'd advise every single woman have a dog.

ducks work to beacuse ducks try to bark and guard people they are familiar with, beacuse they think they are guard dogs

 

advice

 

get a duck 2or 3 of them

 

tie them up outside and let them bark at these strange men.

[cheekychic]

i wish i could afford to move and to get a dog. im skint and in rent arrears. trust me as soon as ive sorted arrears out i am GONE!!

 

GRRR why wasnt he sympathetic

[amtjrtcet]

I dunno, I think if I was a guy and my on again off again/having problems with girlfriend called & was like "men keep coming to my door and won't leave me alone" I think I'd be like, "well don't answer and call the cops." Just my opinion....

[cheekychic]

i dont know who it is though before i answer the door. i cant see from any windows before i answer it. my mum lives 10 min drive away so presumed it was her

[cheekychic]

and there is no way i can call cops.... i hate to think about what would happen if i grassed anyone round here up to cops. id prob get my windows bricked and my time here would not be even less pleasant

 

i dont know if you know who travellers are?? but its all those sorts who live round here. can someone from the UK please explain abotu travellers.l they are not the sort of ppl you F with at all

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

and there is no way i can call cops.... i hate to think about what would happen if i grassed anyone round here up to cops. id prob get my windows bricked and my time here would not be even less pleasant

 

i dont know if you know who travellers are?? but its all those sorts who live round here. can someone from the UK please explain abotu travellers.l they are not the sort of ppl you F with at all

 

do you know what bear mase does? its 40x more stronger than regular mase, its made to knock a grizzly bear out

 

spray some of that in a humans eyes and nobody will mess with you at all unless they have a death wish

[flower99]

i dont know who it is though before i answer the door. i cant see from any windows before i answer it. my mum lives 10 min drive away so presumed it was her

 

My suggestion is tell your mom about your situation. Tell her from now on you are not answering your door. So if she is coming over to call in advance & you will answer for her...but otherwise stay away from answering the door. It's bringing no good.

[Gratsy]

Take precautions. Keep mase and a phone by the bed. You know how to forgo an attacker, right? If not, look up some ways to defend yourself on the net. Get an alarm system and prepare to move out of that area. You're risking getting raped if men are able to do what they've done so far.

[SinfullySweet]

As flower said, tell your mom to call in advance and don't open the door unless you know it's your mother. Also, you really should look into getting a dog. Go to a local animal shelter and pick out a fairly large dog. Even the sweetest dog can have a frightening bark. You don't need a trained attack dog to make you and your daughter feel more secure. My 9 lb boy goes into guard more when anybody walks down my apartment hallway.

[jul-els]

Your bf won't show concern because he is a coward. Please leave this evil neighborhood as soon as possible and dump your careless chicken of a bf immediately. Please also call the police right away and file a report about your neighbors actions and tell them you feel that they are presenting a danger to you and your family.

[CarnelianButterfly]

The best advice: Get out of there.

 

Until then try a few things...

Get a peephole put in. Tell the landlord people are knocking on your door and trying to get in the house, make it like the people that want to come in are going to mess up the house. Make the landlord think it will be good to have the peephole so that you can protect his house better.

 

You can get a dog at a shelter for very cheap and dog food isn't too expensive either. You might even see if a friend will loan you their big barky dog to stand watch a few days out of the week, like days these guys are more likely to come around.

 

If you answer the door, don't take any crap from them. Tell them you're not interested and they need to get off your property before you call the police on them for trespassing. They don't leave, slam the door in their face and call the cops.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

Hi - been there done that. You can install a peephole yourself, I did it when I lived in the ghetto too.

 

If someone comes to your door, ask through the door who it is and if it isn't someone you wish to deal with, tell them through the door that you're busy and not available right now. Sound firm.

 

My solution was to move also. Just about the only thing you can do.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Hi - been there done that. You can install a peephole yourself, I did it when I lived in the ghetto too.

 

Ask permission first. Drilling a hole in a door without the landlords say can cause some serious issues.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

Ask permission first. Drilling a hole in a door without the landlords say can cause some serious issues.

 

I guess you can ask the landlord first. I'm not saying to just drill a hole and put nothing in it. I'm saying get one of those things that you install in the door in order to see who's there. I think it's called a 'doorview'.

[CarnelianButterfly]

I guess you can ask the landlord first. I'm not saying to just drill a hole and put nothing in it. I'm saying get one of those things that you install in the door in order to see who's there. I think it's called a 'doorview'.

All the peepholes I've ever put in were a lens, shaft and a viewer, to put it in the door meant drilling a hole in the door.

[TheSmilingTurnip]

All the peepholes I've ever put in were a lens, shaft and a viewer, to put it in the door meant drilling a hole in the door.

 

Right. I'm just saying that I wasn't saying don't put anything in the hole. Honestly, adding a doorview is doing the landlord a favor. It's a value-add to the apartment. Certainly wouldn't hurt to ask permission though.