why do i feel so down for moving on?

[misshimalready]

ok... well i'm feeling so horrible, i feel like crying, but nothing comes out. i've been trying to keep busy, and i've been doing good. i miss him so much, i wanna hug him, kiss him, but i know it's over. we were so good together, obviously not good enough. i have a huge knot in my throat. i've come to realize that i don't need him, and that i'll be fine if not better without him. "he's just another ex" is what i keep telling myself and sure wont be the last. the thought of me not wanting to be his friend hurts me. i'm so overwhelmed with emotions right now. why does it hurt to know my life will be great without him? shouldn't that feel good?

[IntelligentIdiocy]

There's that thing about "comfort zones." We tend to get set in certain ways and we're creatures of habit. This isn't to say what you had with this guy wasn't real; it's only to say that sometimes we get lost in our own plans and revolutions. We want for something so badly, it's hard to see anything else. Maybe that's why you feel so awful for deciding to move on. Perhaps.

 

If you know you're better off, hang in there. Take it day by day and do the best you can. Someday, you'll wake up and the world will be yours agains.

[love4life]

IntelligentIdiocy is right (it sounds so weird to type that given your username, lol!)

 

I went through these same feelings (still do) and it's letting go of the fantasy of a future you'd mapped out in your mind that hurts most. You're back to "not knowing" what the future holds or who will be in it, and it's scary and lonely.

 

Just maintain faith, hope and, most importantly, PATIENCE, in knowing that you will love again.

[-BK-]

It's amazing that we have to remind ourselves EVERY day that this is a process and that we're doing the right thing. We see so many people go out the next week, hook up, get drunk with friends, or actually be in a new relationship immediately.

 

I have to remind myself that I'm going to be better of healing myself first! If I don't, I may never open myself up to love again...

[SarCareBear]

i know what you mean. what's even harder is when that person "tries to be my friend"... she wants to see me... i told her I can't while we're on different pages. of course even though she dumped me she said she misses me and is all pissed off that i won't see her... talk about immature!?!?