I need guidance, plz help

[raniosman]

I have a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. I go away to Univserity, away from home, its about 5 hours away. We have been friends for two years and became a couple this past August and then school started...so we didn't have time to do much together not even intimate relations.

 

So 2 weeks ago i went and visited her for a day and stayed overnight. Where we u know. After that, a couple days later, she had been fading away, has not been energetic, not saying all the stuff she used to say, just dying down on me.

 

So today i confronted her about it and she said "i'am getting bored...i really am" and that since i only visited her for such a short while, i got her to:

1) crave wanting me.. .not being guilty when talking to other guys

2) remind her of her old ways of flirting with guys (shes 18, im 19)

I really don't understand this.

And we told me that when she was at a party last Sat, she was really drunk and high and that she made out with a guy but felt completely miserable for doing that.

 

So she wants to 'take a break'...i don't understand this break business. The only rule is that we don't date other people. That the purpose of it is to see if we need to move on to other people or that we just needed the 'space'

 

This is my first relationship and her 4th...and she always said for all she had commitment issues but because her last relation was a 'friend with benefit' sort of thing and when she lost her virginity to that guy, she regretted it because it wasn't 'true' and she had stopped it half way through. And told me that she wanted a serious relationship. I thought she was going to change and actually meant it, so 2 months later we hooked up. I love her greatly, i have been there for her all the time, i keep my cell at high volume at night for whenever she needs anything. I have been treating her good as gold.

 

I dunno, i don't want to vent all my problems to u guys but i need advice, i don't really know what to think of all this.

[darkpumpkin]

This is going to sound a bit weird but stop treating her like 24kart and maybe for the next bit treat like 12. She needs to know that you won't always be here and if a break is what she wants you will give it to her. No tears no pleading, a break. That means turn your phone volume down and hope that she can get through what she needs you for at the moment.

 

All of this sound silly and like it will just push her further away but fact is no matter how high or drunk she was, she made out with another guy. Instead of calling you at night saying how drunk she was and how much she missed you.

 

Give her the space and start focusing on you and your life away from her. You will miss her and it will be hard but something is NOT truly yours until you have given it the chance to go and come back.

[ADrifter]

to me, she is not as serious as you are in this relationship. Sorry. time to move on.