Question For The Women About Personalities

[Kevin Lockard]

Would you be so kind to describe the kind of personality you find yourself attracted to in a man (and I mean in a real heart-melting kind of way)?

[Angel_baby]

Every womens response is going to be different. If you are trying to find out what women like in men and are gonna try to be someone you are not... it's not going to work. Being who you are is the most attractive thing in a person.

[Goldfish6888]

okay, it's early in the morning and my brain has not started working yet so, here goes:

I love a man who makes me think,

a man who makes me laugh

a man who loves adventure as much as I

a man who has dreams and ambitions to follow

a man who is not afraid to be afraid

a man who with a wicked glint in his eye can speak volumes to me

a man who is open

a man who is a passionate lover

a man who will take care of me and I of him

Finally a man who is one of my best friends!

 

NOT asking for much am I!!!

 

Hugs G Fish

[Brightest Dark]

Yep, we're all different.

 

Me though... Well, first off he needs to be good-looking. Once we've got that out of the way (that disqualifies 99.9% of the male population in my books... because I'm picky...) then it really doesn't MATTER too much what sort of personality he has as long as he's not an ass!

 

I do tend to like slightly more shy guys more than extroverted types just because I am shy too. That said, I've been attracted to really friendly, more outgoing people. I do prefer people who aren't childish and exceedingly mad though - but wouldn't most people?

 

Maybe list some choices of different personalities if you are really bothered about what people go for. It's hard saying what we go for because I think we don't generally have a list of 'what a guy must have and mustn't have'. As long as he is generally nice and decent I think that is the main thing.

[Sn0man]

@goldfish6888

 

go fish

 

@Brightest Dark

 

You can't have your cake and eat it too. Good looking people are extroverted - trust me, I know. They're also asses. I know that too. LOL.

[Brightest Dark]

@Brightest Dark

 

You can't have your cake and eat it too. Good looking people are extroverted - trust me, I know. They're also asses. I know that too. LOL.

 

lol. Well there's a good-looking guy that I know (and like) that is shy and quiet. Ok, he's not as stunning as some other more extroverted guys, but I like him. He seems like a nice guy. Although he's seems to have been single for a while - whether he's single because he's shy or whether it's because he is an ass I have yet to find out.

[afc_2_dj]

first off he needs to be good-looking. ...... then it really doesn't MATTER too much what sort of personality he has

 

Gee wizz!! So he can have any kind of personality so long as he is good-looking!?! On the bright side, at least when you find your good-looking-enough guy you won't limit yourself by also requiring a personality!!

 

Good looking people are extroverted - trust me, I know.

 

Not always, one of my best-looking friends is quite shy and not extroverted at all. Tho I don't know think he is that good-looking to fall in BD's 0.01% though!!! [note his lack of confidence is completely over-looked by women in their quest for his looks ........]

[Sn0man]

Not always, one of my best-looking friends is quite shy and not extroverted at all. Tho I don't know think he is that good-looking to fall in BD's 0.01% though!!! [note his lack of confidence is completely over-looked by women in their quest for his looks ........]

 

Nope. Women rate confidence highly on their quest for good looks. In fact a lack of confidence will make a good looking man UGLY in a womans eyes.

[Brightest Dark]

Gee wizz!! So he can have any kind of personality so long as he is good-looking!?! On the bright side, at least when you find your good-looking-enough guy you won't limit yourself by also requiring a personality!!

 

 

Well what sort of personalities do guys actually have? Maybe it's just me but I don't actually get chatting to guys who have freaky personalities... so I don't need to worry about that!

 

And obviously I'd want someone who was the faithful, honest, genuine type. I think that's a given.

[afc_2_dj]

Women rate confidence highly on their quest for good looks. In fact a lack of confidence will make a good looking man UGLY in a womans eyes.

 

I agree that is the commonly punted theory, confidence beats looks, what I am saying is this is not the case, and other threads on this site have shown that confidence in approaching doesn't get an unattractive guy points, but that for another thread, don't want to hijack OP's thread with a discussion about this.

[Angel_baby]

Nope. Women rate confidence highly on their quest for good looks. In fact a lack of confidence will make a good looking man UGLY in a womans eyes.

 

It's not really to "much" confidence as it is they are just full of themselves and rub off as to cocky.

[Brightest Dark]

I don't care about confidence. In fact, I'd probably think it was cute if a guy who NOT confident. Makes me go 'awww!'. I wouldn't care whether a guy was confident or not. But too much confidence can be a put off. Depends on if he deserves to be confident though and how he uses the confidence.

[Sn0man]

I don't care about confidence. In fact, I'd probably think it was cute if a guy who NOT confident.

 

What I wouldn't give to be there while you watch a non-confident uber beta male approach you, whimpering to you that he "loooooooves youuuuuuuu" - I would get much satisfaction watching you slap him in his wimpering face. mwahahahaaaaa

[afc_2_dj]

Well what sort of personalities do guys actually have?

 

lol! Thats a good question actually!! I see what you're saying, so long as the basic are in place, honesty/etc, the fine print doesn't matter much so long as the looks are in place.

[afc_2_dj]

Depends on if he deserves to be confident though

 

I don't think thats fair, just because I am not good-looking doesn't automatically imply that I must be a weak, wimpering fool. Confidence may not count for much without looks when meeting women, I am aware of where I fall in the looks ladder, but I still have confidence in myself/my abilities/etc, I don't think one can say I don't deserve to be confident becuase I am not attractive.

 

[using myself to illustrate the general point, I know you are not referring to me personally]

[usababe]

I don't care about confidence. In fact, I'd probably think it was cute if a guy who NOT confident. Makes me go 'awww!'. I wouldn't care whether a guy was confident or not. But too much confidence can be a put off. Depends on if he deserves to be confident though and how he uses the confidence.

 

I completely agree, you always hear guys go on about how girls only like confident guys... that's not true, I actually find it really endearing when a guy isn't oozing confidence. I find it a little intimiadating if they are, every woman is different though just like every guy.

[Batya33]

To me cocky isn't confident- it's insecurity masquerading as "confidence."

 

I like a guy with true class- meaning, no matter how bright and successful he is, he knows how to - and endeavors to - make other people feel comfortable in their own skin, whether it's the cashier, his best friend, an elderly friend of his parents, one of my friends, a neighbor whoever. It's quiet confidence, a touch of humility and in general a sincerity and down to earthedness that is the opposite of bragging/approval seeking.

 

An example - my boyfriend drove my parents to and from his parents' house for thanksgiving. my father is getting a bit older, he's not as steady on his feet. When we arrived back at my parents' house, bf went around to offer to help my dad - but in a dignity-maintaining way - so that my father wouldn't feel embarrassed at needing a little help - and he did it quietly - not in the overly gallant "see I am chivalrous!!

 

So, I like the quiet confidence, slightly reserved but highly articulate and social (but not loud life of party social), and where when he shares something with me I feel special as in not feeling like he shares whatever it is with anyone who will listen. And, a great listener and unafraid to ask questions about subjects he is not familiar with.

 

I admit - I have in the distant past gone for the "macho" "cocky" type - it's a challenge for sure. But he'll never feel like a best friend.

[Cimmie]

emotional maturity and articulateness

 

quiet confidence (I mean confidence about who he is and where he is at in the world as opposed to showing off, which is repellent)

 

well-read and appreciative of the arts

 

Loyalty and truthfulness. Sincerity. Not a game-player or a time-waster.

 

Wit. Sense of humour is really important to me.

 

Good manners becuase good manners are natural to him, not because he is conscious of making an impression.

[love4life]

I like the strong, silent types. Men who are confident and stable and who speak with a purpose. I honestly can't stand it when men are chatterboxes and drone on about details that stray from the topic at hand - huge turn-off. I guess, overall, guys who are calm, even-keeled and go with flow.

 

Looks aren't at the top of my list. They used to be, but I've since grown up and realize that in a long-term partner, personality and demeanor are more important.

[breath.o.fresh.air]

I don't go for the "macho" or super-confident type as some of you have put it. Honestly, I like the quieter type who can make me think, and have a good sense of humour. As for the physical - a smile and eyes are my main focus. Other than that, looks really aren't what I look for.

[Brightest Dark]

I don't think thats fair, just because I am not good-looking doesn't automatically imply that I must be a weak, wimpering fool. Confidence may not count for much without looks when meeting women, I am aware of where I fall in the looks ladder, but I still have confidence in myself/my abilities/etc, I don't think one can say I don't deserve to be confident becuase I am not attractive.

 

[using myself to illustrate the general point, I know you are not referring to me personally]

 

I didn't really mean it that way. I meant it more of in the way of if a guy thought he was absolutely amazing, like God's gift - but he wasn't - then he doesn't deserve to be so confident.

 

I wasn't talking about people who were less good-looking or anything than that. Just about people who do think they are Mr Wonderful or Miss Wonderful when they're not really.

[amtjrtcet]

confidence, charming, humor, respectful, honest, punctual, strong, and can be sensitive when its called for.

[ghost69]

dang, i'm the opposite of all of these posts. gaw...

[amtjrtcet]

dang, i'm the opposite of all of these posts. gaw...

 

doubt that ghost

[ghost69]

well, i'm saying, what is the point of this post? you are who you are. whatever women post here, are you going to change yourself or something? then you aren't you.