should i go for it or what

[gee888]

known this girl for a year been very good friends we click same interests but she has this on and off boyfriend for 4 years i can totally see that she deserves better the boyfriend is a complete nut job im sittin here pissed off my mind whats goin on with her and her boy i * * * * ing like her and as you can see im frustrated should i go for it take her away from the nut job or should i stay as her friend providing comfort everytime she has a damn fight with her boy any suggestions?

[Momene]

We've all been where you are and got the T-shirt and, honestly, most of the time it never happens. I've also been the "nut husband" in this scenario, too. Having the "good friend" lurking in the background when your relationship is insecure only adds to the insecurities. Your presense may well be one of the reasons that he's a nut job.

 

So, let's say you succeed. You may then have an on/off relationship with this girl for 4 years, while another guy takes you place as the friend who is really the boyfriend waiting in the wings.

 

My guess is that you haven't even thought of another girl because you're so hung up on this one. Be her friend, yes but also seek out some opportunities elsewhere. She's not the only girl in the world.

[Jeffrey2095]

Hi Gee888, and welcome to ENA,

 

I agree with Momene,

 

It is an awkward and precarious place to spend your time.

 

Why don't you let her ultimately resolve this, (she might love the guy more than anything) and you should get out there and explore and seek your own thing.

 

Good luck and best wishes.

 

Jeff