Is MW ever leave H for OM?

[silly9907]

I just wonder in any case that MW leave the H for OM. If they was in A for a long time. She must love OM right?

[Censored]

#-o

 

 

 

 

 

huh?

 

ok, im gonna take a stab

 

MW = Married Woman

H= Husband

OM = Other Man

A = Affair

 

If that is right, then the answer to your question is:

 

Not necessarily. Affairs are rarely because the Significant Other simply falls in Love with another person.

[Konfetkette]

^what he said

[Stinkweed]

if somebody left you for someone else, then that somebody is a wretched being, and will be unhappy always. Not worth even thinking about.

[doyathink]

#-o

 

 

 

 

 

huh?

 

ok, im gonna take a stab

 

MW = Married Woman

H= Husband

OM = Other Man

A = Affair

 

If that is right, then the answer to your question is:

 

Not necessarily. Affairs are rarely because the Significant Other simply falls in Love with another person.

 

Ha haha. I'm glad you translated that for us, I had no idea.

[Censored]

^ LOL, i dont know if its right though HAHAHA

[Stinkweed]

^ LOL, i dont know if its right though HAHAHA

 

it totally makes sense though. You're very clever.

[silly9907]

Sorry, didn't clear it out. But your translate for short cut is perfectly right. I have a friend in love with this MW. He still waitting for her to D the Husband. But it been long enought and he want to close the chapter.

[doyathink]

Silly, if you would stop using all these abbreviations, you'd probably get more responses. When someone reads your posts, they may skip it for fear of not understanding it.

 

Tell your 'friend' that he shouldn't get involved with a married woman. When she gets her divorce, then go for it, but until then...he's walking in the dark.

[Censored]

yeah look, i have to say, that she does not necesarrily love your friend because she cheated on her husband with him. Also, i don't know the full story, but it sounds like she is NOT going to leave her husband for him.

 

Many people have extramarital affairs for a variety of reasons, and unless they are caught by their spouse, the don't end up leaving them.

 

Some do it out of spite, some for excitement, some for attention....the reasons really are endless.

 

I would tell your friend to close this chapter now, walk away and don't look back.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

waiting for an affair partner to leave their spouse is a notoriously UNfruitful endeavor. most wait a long long time for nothing, and in the few cases where the affair partner leaves the spouse, the affair usually disintegrates quickly regardless because it was a fantasy built on lies.

 

only something like 2 or 3 out of 100 affairs actually leads to a permanent relationship for the lovers after the marriage break up. they may get together for a while, but the stress of the divorce and realities like angry children, money troubles from the divorce, unrealistic expectations that the bliss will be more than it is when normal life kicks in etc., all doom the relationship.

[princess_summer_blue84]

waiting for an affair partner to leave their spouse is a notoriously UNfruitful endeavor. most wait a long long time for nothing, and in the few cases where the affair partner leaves the spouse, the affair usually disintegrates quickly regardless because it was a fantasy built on lies.

 

only something like 2 or 3 out of 100 affairs actually leads to a permanent relationship for the lovers after the marriage break up. they may get together for a while, but the stress of the divorce and realities like angry children, money troubles from the divorce, unrealistic expectations that the bliss will be more than it is when normal life kicks in etc., all doom the relationship.

 

 

I totally agree! A MW will not leave H for OM ! Sorry!

[luvursmile]

I agree...NOT gonna happen!

[Rum]

I just wonder in any case that MW leave the H for OM. If they was in A for a long time. She must love OM right?

 

 

I would imagine that in some cases they think they love each other for a while, sometimes it's one who loves while the other just goes for the ride.

 

All i can do is say what i know from my experience. my wife had an affair, we've done heavy counselling the last few weeks. my wife was not attracted to this man physically, and he had a bad personality, which got on her nerves.

he's a loud talker, know it all, needs attention type. but he was a smooth talker and could send sweet e-mails.

he isn't married, but common law for 18 years or so, but has no children.

 

i had already guessed his personality, i knew that if my wife got caught in this situation he was totally different from me.. the rest came out via the cousellor.

so in my case, yes she perhaps "loved" him, but she actually loved what he represented, ie; the attention, the sweet talks and e-mails, listened to her and on and on.

 

and in my case, they never wanted to be together, just to have their get togethers once in a while, which is what they did.

for someone having an affair, our sex life was great, but our communication skills were nil. i'm finding out they had more arguments than i did with my own wife.

they worked together, but not that close, same building. she liked his e-mails but coudn't stand to be with him for etended periods of time, he got on her nerves.

 

YET, she had an affair with him for over 1 year.

 

 

so yes, in the beginning i was certain that my wife was in love with this guy, but she wasn't really.

Couselling reveals all these things.

 

That's my case, but for what you are asking, she may very well be "in love" now, but more than likely will snap out of it. An affair is a secret love, so the newness and excitement of the secrecy make it different, but it's a lie and fantasy. The only time they get together is to be on their "high" of the affair.

Nobody is mowing the lawn, paying bills, taking out the garbage etc.

They only see each other at their best, ie; nicely dressed, smelling good etc.

 

That's why affairs never work, and then the cheating spouse always regrets it after the get out of the "fog" they were in.

 

Again, in my case, she revealed to me the affair 3-4 months after it was over, and i never would have known. We saw counselling, bought the book "After the Affair". When my wife read the very first paragraph in that book, she cried for 2 days.

 

If everyone would simply read a book like that, they would never, ever dare cheat on their partners. The things we know after it's done and the pain it causes. and all the regrets.

 

So to answer in short term, she may want to be with other man, but will have a rude awakening at one point but it will be too late.

 

--Rum

[silly9907]

He really love this woman and I ask him what the caught? He said that she is very gentle woman, in the same return he gentle to her. But I told him since it been 10 years and she didn't make plan to leave her husband. Chance are very little that she will leave now.

[Olive.Juice]

if somebody left you for someone else, then that somebody is a wretched being, and will be unhappy always. Not worth even thinking about.

 

 

To call someone a "wretched being" because they left one person to be with another is a little judgemental, dont you think?

 

What if the the person that was left is the "wretched being" and deserved it?

 

I think before people name-call they should either/or:

1. get the full story.

2. Not bring the personal feelings into the thread.

3. If can't do 1 or 2 then don't post in the thread.

 

Just my $0.02

[Stinkweed]

To call someone a "wretched being" because they left one person to be with another is a little judgemental, dont you think?

 

What if the the person that was left is the "wretched being" and deserved it?

 

I think before people name-call they should either/or:

1. get the full story.

2. Not bring the personal feelings into the thread.

3. If can't do 1 or 2 then don't post in the thread.

 

Just my $0.02

 

and you're right. One would have to know the details of it all.