Wilbur015 Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 This may be stupid but im just gonna say it anyways...First of all I'll start at the beginning...I got with this girl and we ended up having a baby together and during the pregnancy she broke up with me and she lives in another city, but I still see my daughter every weekend. Heres the problem, the last 3 or 4 times I visited my baby and the mom. We are good friends by the way...I have started to grow feelings for her again. Is this normal? Could it be because of the baby? Will it pass? What should I do? I wanna tell her but that wont go over well..One time I went up there she was talking with my aunt and looked at me and said "I dont have someone, and im happy about that?"... Does anyone know what I should do? any help would be greatly appreciated. If not thats ok...Thanks Link to comment
LilBear Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 Why did she break up with you? Link to comment
Wilbur015 Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 Well, it was a while ago so I dont remember exactly but I do know she said I needed to grow up because I wasnt mature enough for a baby. About a month ago what she said was "You were much better when it came to being attentive to a baby and like that" in an email a little while ago.. So I dont know if that means anything Link to comment
lovemeorleaveme Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 dont fight your feelings..I think its wonderful to have a family.Much more wonderful if she feels the same way but I think this is the kind of thing thats worth trying! Link to comment
LilBear Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 I feel that she's hinting that you don't give her enough attention as a woman. I suggest the next time you go over, buy her some flowers and see how things go from there. Do sweet little things for her. Link to comment
Wilbur015 Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 Im just scared ya know?? Im mainly worried about it not going so good and having the awkward-ness whenever I go and visit. That cannot be good. Im sorry I just suck at this stuff. Thanks lilbear...Im liking your idea, I mean whats the worst that can happen? But im just a really shy guy...I dunno if I could actually go through with it...I know I should just go for it...But what exactly did you mean by not giving her enough attention as a woman? Link to comment
glegend Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 Well if your developing feelings for her and if she feels the same way about you then I think it would be a great idea to get back together not only for yourselfs but for your daughter. To give her the family she deserves. Link to comment
Wilbur015 Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 Im just wondering how would I go about doing it? I dont wanna come on to strong and have her hate me and be fighting again...I also dont want to not go on strong enough and make her think its nothing. Link to comment
LilBear Posted December 6, 2007 Share Posted December 6, 2007 How would you define coming on too strong? I do think the both of you should talk about how you feel about each other, and not so much of this cloak and dagger stuff. Link to comment
Wilbur015 Posted December 6, 2007 Author Share Posted December 6, 2007 My definition of coming on to strong would be something like for an example something like coming right out and saying "I still have feelings for you". And having her be all awkard and everything. So im pretty much to just let her know how I feel? Link to comment
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