Gratsy Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Was he wrong for me? Is there someone out there who hears me in my silent alone? There is someone I miss. I don't know what he's doing or where he is. I miss him a lot. I think, tonight, that he might be in love with some other girl. Or that he's alone in his sad room. Sometimes, I hope that he picks up a phone or that he looks at the screen and thinks of me and wants me. Why ?
love4life Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I can't tell you "why" but I can tell you that I have those same thoughts. The not knowing is a killer.
barbielovesmac Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I believe in destiny. Now thats a freaking thriller.
Gratsy Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 Most of the time its easier for me to assume that "not knowing" should translate to "knowing, but its not what you want to know", because if you assume that you meant nothing, that it was nothing- it becomes true and life becomes nicer because maybe he was a fluke, a little nothing-blip on the course of your lifeline.
kevinm Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 There's always the one that "got away" but then again why did that happen? Was there something more YOU could have done? If there was, and you didn't take action, then don't fret about it. The past is the past... while it influences who you are as a person, you can't live in the past. If you know who this person is, where he is, etc, then do something to contact him. Or, just drop it and move on. -Kevin
Gratsy Posted December 6, 2007 Author Posted December 6, 2007 I believe in destiny. Now thats a freaking thriller. I really suck at make-up...do you know some links I could use to help me with eye make-up? I bought some mac cosmetics from this very good looking man and i have no idea as to how he did to my eyes what he did.
barbielovesmac Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I really suck at make-up...do you know some links I could use to help me with eye make-up? I bought some mac cosmetics from this very good looking man and i have no idea as to how he did to my eyes what he did. the majority of my makeup is MAC. good choice.
JadedStar Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Was he wrong for me? Is there someone out there who hears me in my silent alone? There is someone I miss. I don't know what he's doing or where he is. I miss him a lot. I think, tonight, that he might be in love with some other girl. Or that he's alone in his sad room. Sometimes, I hope that he picks up a phone or that he looks at the screen and thinks of me and wants me and won't do it for fear. Why ? Girl all i can tell you is that sometimes we get with the wrong one and it hurts like he11 when they are gone but it is something that must happen. The less we try to think about it and occupy our minds elsewhere the better off we are.
CrazyKing Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 Nobody's designed to be sad, and nobody's designed to be happy, we are just designed to be... We are the masters of our lives... Sadness comes from living today, I always try to look at a very bright future...
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 no i do not. it is neither destined for me to be alone, or with someone, i can decide that for myself..... i want to sit on my ass and be a couch potato.....so nope i dont want anyone, dont know if anyone wants me, dont care.
ghost69 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 if you knew he was doing great and you knew he moved on, you would be even more jealous and need even more time to get over it. this is why people stay out of contact when they break up.
cpc28655 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 No, I do not believe in fate. Life is what we make of it.
ghost69 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 No, I do not believe in fate. Life is what we make of it. isn't that YOUR fate?
onewithbooks Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I dont believe in fate, at least not in the way of "OH we were meant to be together in a Sleepless in Seattle kind of way" I think that love is a random hit or miss thing. Its what happens when you are in a good place and you like someone and they are in a simillar place and they like you too. I think its as random as you bump into someone and you may not care for them and think they are standoffish, to the next time bumping into them and figuring out you are attracted to them. Its only when that person realizes that they like you too that things begin to happen. Maybe that is just my jaded viewpoint, but I have long since given up on the idea that there is one person out there just for me. I dont think that happens. I think that you find someone that you are compatible with and you work on it. I dont think its magical.
Nixee Posted December 7, 2007 Posted December 7, 2007 I'm not sure I believe in actual fate... as in, what was meant to happen will happen no matter what. I believe that we have a lot of control over our own lives. I do, however, believe in fateful moments. Such as a chance meeting or an out-of-the-ordinary experience. When such things happen, it doesn't necessarily mean your fate is set in stone.. it means life has just shown you something, and the rest is up to you. I guess you could say... fate isn't your dictator, it is more like your gentle and supportive mother
Zuzu2 Posted December 9, 2007 Posted December 9, 2007 I believe in fate. I believe everything happens for a reason. But often we don't realize what the reason was until much later on.
Censored Posted December 10, 2007 Posted December 10, 2007 fate is a linking together of what you subconsciously desire, good or bad
cpc28655 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 isn't that YOUR fate? Perhaps. But the word "fate" implies that it is set in stone.
Gratsy Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 I do believe in fate and I believe the right person will enter your life when you have reached the right stage of personal development... It's like each partner you meet mirrors yourself and your development at that time and each one has a lesson to teach you...but that's just my personal belief. People may come back into your life too I think...sometimes there is a link between you that cannot be fully broken. Love Lady D x When I have a crush, it takes a very long time to get over. My last crush was someone who is not in my life anymore and probably never will be because of fate. But maybe fate will have him back in my life later? who knows: the only other guy I felt this way about was someone that consumed my life for years when he was out of contact with me. When we came back into contact, I was astonished to find that my feelings for him had completely vanished.
buckdawg Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 i like to say, 'if it was meant to be it will be' which is kind of a fateful statement isn't it? but to some degree i think we can control our fate. i honestly don't think the big man upstairs knows where i'm gonna be in a year or five or ten. we have to be active participants in our own lives and take the bull by the horns.
ghost69 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Perhaps. But the word "fate" implies that it is set in stone. whatever you choose to do IS set in stone. what you choose not to do was just an opportunity.
ghost69 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 No, I don't. The idea is completely contrary to free will, which to some extent, all people have. it is set in stone. what you choose to do is done. hence, it is finished, finito, listo, set in stone. think about it.
Gratsy Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 Not really. But that aside, fate implies no choice, all is willed by some other force, you have no say and all is predetermined. That notion, I clearly reject. Fate doesn't imply or say that there isn't choice. Sometimes fate comes into play and sometimes choice comes into play. For instance, we all have choices...within a limited context. I can't choose, for instance, to be born a man because fate decided that I wasn't a man. I can choose to date women instead of men if I wanted to, however. I think that fate and choice are tied in together. Its difficult to explain but they aren't necessarily opposing forces.
ghost69 Posted December 21, 2007 Posted December 21, 2007 Fate doesn't imply or say that there isn't choice. Sometimes fate comes into play and sometimes choice comes into play. For instance, we all have choices...within a limited context. I can't choose, for instance, to be born a man because fate decided that I wasn't a man. I can choose to date women instead of men if I wanted to, however. I think that fate and choice are tied in together. Its difficult to explain but they aren't necessarily opposing forces. exactly. fate = what you are destined to do or how you will end up. only you can change that. so only you can begin or end your own fate. depends on the choices you make. consequences of your choices also determine your fate. i will agree ever now and then something crosses your path that you least expected. but how you react to those things is your fate. your choices.
Gratsy Posted December 21, 2007 Author Posted December 21, 2007 I think we are allowed free will outside of anything to do with fate where choice is fundamental...but its only in a limited context. I think of fate as more this force that directs us to certain ways but that choice can oppose if it wants. And then there are times when fate and choice are intertwined with one another. Often, fate is a general decision of the universe while free will is the specific decisions within your life.
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