moulinbleu Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 So its over. I have signed a lease on an apartment for jan 1. He is in the garage working on his ""passion", his antique car. I am in the living room drinking the bottle of Bordeaux we picked up in Paris last Spring. We were planning to drink it on our wedding night. It sure is sweet. Smooth. Long finish. Great with a clove cigarette. Yes, I have started smoking again. . . Dammit, I thought he was the one. I really did. Red flags here and there. . . but ignored. Of course. The REAL trouble started when I asked him to HELP me do the dishes after I bought, cooked and served dinner. He said, he doesn't want that responsibility. He is not a "yes man." He has continued using the "yes man" argument anytime I ask him to share responsibilities. This negates any time I ask him to do anything. Lazy. Waiting for the day he can quit his job and live on my income. Yes, in so many words, he said that. My sister died last month. He whined because I did not want to have sex. I want to vomit on his face. I am an altruist and not materialistic. I spend 15 hours a week commuting in a bus so that I could live with him. I come home to somone who does not appreciate my cooking and who forgets to feed the dogs (dog food in bowls on counter) when I have a late night and who says "I have a suspicion that all you want is a mansion and designer clothes and a nice car." I give my excess money to charity. I shop at the goodwill. I drive a 13 year old car that was given to me by a friend. I like it that way. I have earning potential that is 6 figures, but I choose to make an $18,000 yearly stipend because I love what I do. He leaves the history open on the computer so that I can see he is fishing for college girls on myspace. Scumbag. I have over three weeks until I move out. And his family will descend upon this house for Christmas. His mother is wanting grandchildren. I am his first relationship, cut him a break, right? He is 29. He is an excellent lover. I have been offered to stay with friends until the new year but I have two crazy (but awesome dogs) that are not welcome. I am NOT leaving my dogs. But really, this wine is very good. I wish I could pour enotalone a glass. Salut. A toast to the prospects of 2008. May we all find happiness. May I make it through the next 3 weeks.
CarnelianButterfly Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 I think it sounds like a nice way to celebrate freedom from him. He's worthless and you are not a meal ticket. Tell his Mom to stick in her ear if she nags you.
sandyv Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 moulinbleu, you are truly a strong woman, alot of us could do with your sensible and realistic way of dealing with someone who most definitely does not deserve you. Congrats on your upcoming freedom! xxx Take Care Sandy
Censored Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 "I want to vomit on his face" hehhehehe, That really summed up your whole post for me. Quite inspiring to read.... I read it twice. I hope that Bordeaux goes down well. You deserve it. Enjoy.
Hope75 Posted December 6, 2007 Posted December 6, 2007 It certainly sounds like he has no respect or appreciation for you. Enjoy your bottle of wine and be safe. 3 weeks will be here before you know it.
moulinbleu Posted December 11, 2007 Author Posted December 11, 2007 Moved out on Sunday and it feels great. He still has some of my stuff at his house (I won't have a truck for the big stuff until Jan 12st), but since he would not refund the remainder of my rent for the month, I now consider his house my personal climate-controlled storage facility. His mom sent me an email asking if I wanted to go Xmas shopping with her. . . .obviously he hadn't broken the news to her. So I did. Hope it sits well. If it doesn't, not my problem. I feel like I have been reborn. Getting back to the world of the living has been awesome. New friends, nice clean space. Hopeful.
circi Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 I worship you. We're not worthy! What strength you have, wow. In awe, simply in awe.
yellow_sweater Posted December 11, 2007 Posted December 11, 2007 Good for you, in your choice of action and your choice of wine. What vintage was it? I'm a wannabe wine snob
Bisby Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 I envy your piece of mind and bottle of wine! Enjoy both! Good luck in the new year!
Hope75 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Moved out on Sunday and it feels great. He still has some of my stuff at his house (I won't have a truck for the big stuff until Jan 12st), but since he would not refund the remainder of my rent for the month, I now consider his house my personal climate-controlled storage facility. His mom sent me an email asking if I wanted to go Xmas shopping with her. . . .obviously he hadn't broken the news to her. So I did. Hope it sits well. If it doesn't, not my problem. I feel like I have been reborn. Getting back to the world of the living has been awesome. New friends, nice clean space. Hopeful. Glad to hear you are out on your own again. You sound like you have a really healthy attitude about things. I wish you the best of luck!
rootcause43 Posted December 12, 2007 Posted December 12, 2007 Waiting for the day he can quit his job and live on my income. So glad you got out and sound reborn.
Just-a-Girl Posted December 13, 2007 Posted December 13, 2007 Girl - as soon as I read the thread subject line I knew this was going to be a good one! You have handled this with the utmost class and respect... and hey, a little wine never hurt anyone. Private wine parties can be the best! Good for you for making the choice and getting out of this relationship. The feeling of relief must be amazing for you! I am truly impressed.
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