Getting "in" that crowd.

[Caldus]

Hi all,

 

Attitude is everything. We all know that.

 

So I was reading a post (on another website) where a girl was talking about how she had such a great time at some BDSM party the other night. I looked at a photo of her she posted a few days before that. She had this look about her that speaks to the viewer "I am a very different person. I am very liberal. Very open-minded..." From looking at her picture and reading her posts, she seemed to come off as a person who, if she does work, works at a place where she likes the people there (maybe not necessarily her job). I don't know why I thought all of this but reading her most recent post started to make me realize that I just haven't really gotten to "that" point yet in my life. I don't know if I can explain this well but I will try. It's a combination of many things I guess.

 

For one thing, I too am a very different person. I would say I'm liberal-minded for the most part but do have a few conservative views. I am interested in so many things and actually dive deep into them (starting with computers, then philosophy, then art, and so on and so forth). I am about to take a photography class at a community college while still working full time at a job that overall is OK to me. Just that 1/4 of the days I hate, which I guess I'm doing very well compared to most people there. Anyway, before I blabber any further, let me get to the point. See, the nature of her post was such that it was like "only people who are invited may come to this party, blah blah". It's like you just had to be "in" in order to be there you know? How do you get "in"? And I don't mean just a BDSM party. But I always hear about these private sex parties or private whatever parties (doesn't have to be sexual) but have never been invited to one. I've never really had that many friends in my life, which I guess is a reason why, but I still wonder how you become "in" in a crowd like that? Do you just have a lot of knowledge and/or experience on the subject and when they see that they invite you? Maybe this is a really dumb question? Oh well.

 

I am not complaining or whining or anything like that. Just something that crossed my mind after reading that recent post and maybe kind of bothered me a bit (I admit) but not in a bad way (if that makes sense). I guess I feel like it's one area of my life I want to get into more ... the joy of the private crowd and private parties (I don't just mean like private house parties where only certain friends can come sort of thing, but I mean like the really private stuff ... private orgies, private BDSM parties, private whatever (again, doesn't have to just be sexual stuff). I know I am being really weird here and I don't care.

 

Is there someone on here who is like the girl I talked about earlier? What are you like? What do you just ... do? Who are you?

[rosephase]

I'm 23 in a poly relationship and I regularly go to "private" bdsm parties and play party (i.e. sex parties) I kind of got into by going to a bdsm club, and I got into play parties by getting involved in the burning man crowed up here in Seattle. I don't think there is one way to get into something like that. I kind of fell into it, in Seattle it helps to be in a couple. If you look at most sex clubs they have a couples and single females only rule unless someone can speak for you.