First Phone Conversation after the First Date

[ConfusedDater]

Haven't had the 1st phone conversation after the first date yet but just had 2 questions

 

 

1. How long should the convo be?

 

2. Three Topics I should discuss?

 

 

 

This is new for me and just trying to do the right thing and not mess up like I did numerous times in the past

[barbielovesmac]

You shouldn't really plan this sort of thing out.

 

You can't really put a time stamp how 'how long you should talk' or what topics you should discuss.

 

Let it be natural, not planned out.

[Dating Coach]

Don't plan three things to talk about. Just keep the conversation relatively short. Don't try to extend the conversation to any great lengths, just chat, joke, tease, and have fun with it. Then set up a second date and get off the phone.

[Yates33]

Don't plan three things to talk about. Just keep the conversation relatively short. Don't try to extend the conversation to any great lengths, just chat, joke, tease, and have fun with it. Then set up a second date and get off the phone.

 

I agree. Keep it short and light. However, I think you shouldn't mention anything about a second date. Just call her to follow up and say hello, again...short and light. It will leave her asking herself why you didn't set up a second date. I think it's a safe net and smarter to filter those girls that like playing games. It happened to before that I called a girl two days after the first date and asked her out again in the first phone call, she said maybe....the next day during a text flirting session which she initiated, she said "I know you like me and want to see me because you asked me out right right away when you called after that first night." Granted I went on another couple of dates and "hooked up" with this girl, until I realized she wasn't the type I wanted to be in a relationship with (game playing, thinks she can manipulate men etc) so I said PEACE.

 

Keep her guessing in the beginning.

[wiser]

Converse until things seem to be slowing down. Once those awkward silences start to crop up, it's time to go.

 

3 things to say?

 

Try to confirm another date.

 

Try to confirm another date.

 

And lastly, try to confirm another date.

[Yates33]

Converse until things seem to be slowing down. Once those awkward silences start to crop up, it's time to go.

 

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Better yet, leave when things are going well! Always leave on a high note...its one of the reasons to make it short and quick (10 minutes max, 5 minutes minumum IMO)

[ghost69]

'hey i had a great time the other night/day. remember when the _____ fell over the ____? that was hilarious. hey, i was thinkin we should do dinner saturday night.'

 

have a place picked out. if she was interested, she will say yes.

[KAT MOMMY]

I don't think that you should plan things like this. it should come natural. There is no right or wrong thing to say to her because everyone is different and what works for her may not work for me. You understand me? See so there may be a seris of things you want to know-so just ask her. Stop second guessing yourself because she will catch on that you are nervous and confused. So be natural be yourself and stop thinking so hard.

 

If she went out on the first date and you haven't called--the YOU call her. The inital reason for that call would be to tell her you enjoyed and would like to see her again/ take it from there. It's not as hard as you are making it out to be.

 

good luck