I don't believe him to save my life!

[barbielovesmac]

He said to me TWO days ago that he had practice at 2:45pm today. He also said it would only last 45 minutes. Like he has it all planned out. NEVER has he had practice at this time. His practices have ALWAYS been at 6pm. He says it's because they have a game tomorrow. Again, he has had normal practices before games. Never a 2:45 short practice. Practice is always like 2-2 1/2 hours.

 

THEN he said his 'friend' called and he missed it probably while we were eating lunch today. MY ASS! He didn't miss a phone call, he had his phone with him the entire time. Anyways he said his friend wants him to go STRAIGHT to his house after practice. DOUBT IT! It's like he has this all planned out! Times, how long...EVERYTHING!

 

Worst part about all this is he is using MY CAR. I am stuck here at work - so even if I wanted to check up on him I couldn't. I can call him as much as I want, but it proves NOTHING.

 

Think I am overreacting? Over analyzing maybe?

[15 Storeys High]

What does your gut say?

[barbielovesmac]

That I may be overreacting. That I may just be getting worked up for nothing.

 

But who the heck knows!

[Bunney]

Is this a new guy or is it your ex-boyfriend?

[Censored]

Hi barbiegurl,

 

I think when you become a little paranoid, you automatically start to over analyze things. However, I am a big believer in trusting your instincts. Is there anyway you are able to check if this new "practice" time is legitimate? Maybe a call to a friend of his asking some non-descript question.

 

As for the phone, and missing the call, well, i miss calls all the time when i have my phone with me. Sometimes i have it on silent and forget to turn the ringer back on. So that is a real possibility.

 

Try to get some perspective on this and give some thought to how much of your "feelings" may be an over reaction as opposed to hard fact.

[15 Storeys High]

Always go with your gut instinct.

 

If your gut says otherwise then call where he normally practices and ask if they have a practice at the time he said so.

 

Just depends how much you're willing to trust him and how you'd feel;

 

1. If you checked up on him and he wasn't lying.

2. If you checked up on him and he was lying.....what would you do?

[JeckyllNHyde]

I say don't lend him your car. Maybe offer to drop him off and pick him?

 

Is there anyway you are able to check if this new "practice" time is legitimate? Maybe a call to a friend of his asking some non-descript question.

 

I think Niceguyloses has another good idea too to do some "detective work".

[barbielovesmac]

Hi barbiegurl,

 

 

 

As for the phone, and missing the call, well, i miss calls all the time when i have my phone with me. Sometimes i have it on silent and forget to turn the ringer back on. So that is a real possibility.

 

 

would you feel your phone if it was on vibrate and in your pocket? cause he said thats what happened. his phone was in his pocket, on vibrate and he didn't feel it.

[15 Storeys High]

would you feel your phone if it was on vibrate and in your pocket? cause he said thats what happened. his phone was in his pocket, on vibrate and he didn't feel it.

 

I do that all the time. Especially when it's in my coat pocket.

[Censored]

would you feel your phone if it was on vibrate and in your pocket? cause he said thats what happened. his phone was in his pocket, on vibrate and he didn't feel it.

 

Honestly, sometimes i dont feel it vibrating in my pocket. Depends how involved in conversation i am with someone at the time. Many many times, i have missed calls when my phone is on vibrate.

[JeckyllNHyde]

would you feel your phone if it was on vibrate and in your pocket? cause he said thats what happened. his phone was in his pocket, on vibrate and he didn't feel it.

 

I agree. That doesn't really sound legit. Unless if it was in a bag or something or coat pocket, but in a pants pocket he would have to feel it usually.

Play it totally cool and then wham-o! Go check up on him out the blue. But for now just act dumb and You don't want him covering tracks yet or paying more attention to not leaving any.

[barbielovesmac]

I did some detective work, lol

 

I called where he is practicing.

 

I nonchalantly asked the lady if there was basketball practice being held right now? She said well there is practice everyday, I told her that I knew that but if it was happening right now. sHE DIDNT SOUND VERY SURE OF HERSELF.

 

She said she thinks so, because there is a game today.

[Censored]

Well, i hope that makes you feel a little more at ease.......

[15 Storeys High]

Well, there you go.....

 

How do you feel?

[Hope75]

Personally if I had to police my guy's actions because I didn't trust him I wouldn't want to be with him.

 

Why don't you trust him? Has he ever given you a reason not to?

[JeckyllNHyde]

Personally if I had to police my guy's actions because I didn't trust him I wouldn't want to be with him.

 

Why don't you trust him? Has he ever given you a reason not to?

 

That's a good point. I would leave a relationship if I found myself doubting. Been thru that when I was younger ONCE and it was enough for me to learn that I don't want to be one of those women who puts up with having to chase her man around to try and find out if he is cheating.

Then again it all depends like Hope said, if he has given you reasons other then these 2 days to doubt. Or if he has a history of cheating... or something.

[JadedStar]

WHO are you referring to? Is this the same guy you recently broke up with? Are you back together?

 

Overrreacting? Probably. The way you are wording this it sounds like you don't trust him at all. Isn't that what matters?

Eitehr you are not a very trusting person or he is giving off a vibe that is making you not trust him.

[barbielovesmac]

I can't drop him off or pick him up because I have to be at work.

 

I can't pop in on him to see what he is doing because I am at work.

 

I am not sure if I am at ease, I guess I am a little. That lady was just like 'uhhh, im an idiot and I have no idea why you are asking me this" LOL

 

I called his cell and he didn't answer. I am assuming he is practicing, although he only said it would last about an hour.

[JadedStar]

I did some detective work, lol

 

I called where he is practicing.

 

I nonchalantly asked the lady if there was basketball practice being held right now? She said well there is practice everyday, I told her that I knew that but if it was happening right now. sHE DIDNT SOUND VERY SURE OF HERSELF.

 

She said she thinks so, because there is a game today.

 

That seems a bit over the top.

[barbielovesmac]

WHO are you referring to? Is this the same guy you recently broke up with? Are you back together?

 

Overrreacting? Probably. The way you are wording this it sounds like you don't trust him at all. Isn't that what matters?

Eitehr you are not a very trusting person or he is giving off a vibe that is making you not trust him.

 

This is a new guy that I am seeing. I am a trusting person, but right now he is giving off a vibe that makes me not trust him.

[barbielovesmac]

That seems a bit over the top.

 

what does?

[15 Storeys High]

Is he really giving off a vibe though? Or is that something you want to believe to justify why you don't trust him?

[barbielovesmac]

Is he really giving off a vibe though? Or is that something you want to believe to justify why you don't trust him?

 

You have a point. It might be something I want to believe. I admit that this all might be in my head, but its only because there is this 'sudden change' in his scheduling. And his friend ... whatever. It's just bugging the hell out of me.

[15 Storeys High]

Sudden changes in schedules happen everyday. It's okay to be a bit taken aback if what you're used to suddenly changes but it doesn't mean anything sinister is happening. Do you really like him? Or are you just waiting for him to do something wrong?

[barbielovesmac]

Ok, so I just got off the phone with him.

 

He told me that he got out of practice at 3:45. He said the reason he didn't call me after practice was because he was out rescuing his dad because he ran out of gas. And he didn't answer when I called because he was talking to his dad.

 

Believeable?