In love with someone new bt still love ex??

[coolchick]

Hey folks,

 

I was just wondering, has any of you ended a relationship with someone and moved on to find love with someone else, but still feel that you are still in love with your ex?

 

My ex ended things with me and got together with someone very soon after and cut off all contact with me. In a way, now, i feel grateful for this because its helped me get over him a lot quicker than it was when we still spoke. Ive been seeing someone for 7 months now and have definitely fallen for him in a big way! I love him and its amazing that he feels the same way my ex contacted me a week ago to say happy birthday and to mention about a credit that went into our account. Although i wouldnt get back together with the ex, seeing his picture and talking to him made me feel warm and close to him again. What does this mean?? If i feel this way despite being in love with someone else, do you think he may feel that way too? we spent 6 years together. Would appreciate any experiences you guys may have had x

[audrey]

your feelings aren't clear yet. you may not know what you really want.

[coolchick]

Ooh i do know, i promise, its just because he was someone i idolised, really looked up to him and cherished his friendship but at the end he didnt want it. Ive moved on now and found someone im really compatible with. I know that it wouldnt work with the ex nor would i want to try again. But there's just something about him that when i look at his pic and talk to him gives me a fuzzy feeling. I know i still care about him but im wondering if he may still feel that way about me despite being in love with this new girl like i am with my lad?

[parralax]

Maybe you just love him in a a warm attached, firendly way now. You know you don't want to be with him but you feel affection still. Perhaps that means you can be great friends, and have your new love too with no scary issues. Although that depends on how your ex feels. Are you friendly and see each other still? If he feels good about you too, and wants to be friends then you really might have what I consider to be the ideal situation.

[bustertypsy]

Imagine you and you current boyfriend were to split.

Now imagine your current and ex ring you and want to get back with you.

Which one would you take???

That's the person you love,really love!

You can't be in love with both,same as you can't read and listen at the same time.

[Lovin_Life]

How long were you single after the breakup before you met your current bf?

[Zorba]

You spent six years together. That's a long time. The war fuzzy feelings may stem from that. If he jumped into something very quickly after you it's possible he has similar feelings along the way. I do find it interesting that you mention wondering if he does. Plus after 6 years you will have weathered the honeymoon period and will have loved each other for most of that 6 years. That's pretty heavy. Your new guy after 7 months you're in love with him and the hormones are flying high still. So it is possible to love two men at the same time. The trick with your new reltionships is that they have to be treated as separate entities. His so soon after will suffer if he hasn't come to terms with the ending of those 6 years. Yours will suffer long term, if it was an in between healing relationship. Once you see that, a rebound situation is easier to avoid, but it takes work.