roxybaby Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 hi everybody im new here so hello. ive got a problem i thought you guys could help me out my boyfriend bround me a really expensive t-shirt for christmas and left it at his brothers house. his brothers girlfriend didnt have anything to wear so she wore the top my boyfrind had brought me and ruined it because shes a size 12 and i am an 8. his brother and his girlfriend are saying they havn't got the money to pay for another one so my boyfriend is going to have to replace it himself he said he would (bearing in my me and my partner do not have much money ourselves). but i kicked up a fuss and i told him not to and they should pay for it, after an argument his brother,he agreed to pay but has fell out with us and i feel guilty because hes saying hes got to take some of their childrens xmas prezzies back to pay for it. making me feel guilty for asking them to pay for something they ruined thanks guys xx Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 welcome to enotalone. i think it's exceedingly rude that your bf's brother let his gf wear your GIFT. if she didn't have anything to wear, why didn't she just wear an old sweatshirt of his, not a new gift for you? your bf needs to talk to his brother about that, i don't know why she was allowed to wear a gift at all. why not give someone a box of half-eaten chocolates, or a half-used bottle of lotion, or a half-drunk bottle of wine? very rude. Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Nevermind...she should pay if she didn't ask to borrow it and you didn't okay it. Link to comment
Siriana Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Oh, you did nothing wrong. They were rude beyond words. Who cares about they children christmas gifts. Thats just an emotional blackmail. Link to comment
Weeblie Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I don't think you're being unreasonable. That was rude of them. As for returning the kids presents, why doesn't he just return his girlfriend's present? As I see it, by wearing your shirt...she went and picked out herself something already. Link to comment
raffi_FL Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I agree that you aren't being unreasonable. It was very rude of her to wear your shirt that was a gift to you, especially from the sounds of it it wasn't a good fit on her and she stretched it. Link to comment
roxybaby Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 thanks guys its just my boyfriend lets people walk over him and ive never met the girl they are trying to say that i coming between him and his friends when all im trying to do is get him to stand up for himself this is the second person hes fell out with because of me and im just getting everything wrapped around my neck xx Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 anytime you borrow something and break/ruin it, you should offer to pay for the item, or get a replacement. the brother should have never gotten into an argument, he should have just ponied up the money, and let that be that...... Link to comment
Momene Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Perhaps his brother should dump his girlfriend. Link to comment
shikashika Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 you are not being unreasonable at all.. That is one of the rudest things i've heard in a long time!! What the heck does she mean she didn't have anything to wear? you mean if your shrit wasn't there she would have had to go topless?!?! Yea right. Whatever.....she just liked it and wanted to wear it and then used that as an excuse!!! I can't believe she would wear your shirt... to me that is unthinkable.. even if it was someone's OLD shirt, I can't believe she had the gall to put it on. Unbeleivable.. and then trying to put a guilt trip on you by saying 'now we have to take the children's presents back?" gimme a break. How old is the couple? Doesn't matter how old they are, it is ridiculously immature. Link to comment
Firehawk13 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 thanks guys its just my boyfriend lets people walk over him and ive never met the girl they are trying to say that i coming between him and his friends when all im trying to do is get him to stand up for himself this is the second person hes fell out with because of me and im just getting everything wrapped around my neck xx If he's that kind of person it's good if you're making him stand up for himself. You and he were well within reasonable bounds to request compensation. Don't feel guilty. Link to comment
someguy88 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 Well, this is a stinky situation. The fact of the matter is that your boyfriend is the guy left feeling like crap. I'm sure you won't miss the shirt that much, but your boyfriend is probably feeling really guilty about the whole thing. If I were you I'd accept the gift as is and say nothing more about the whole fiasco. You can't force him to stand up for himself and you're certainly not doing any good getting between him and his brother. Link to comment
roxybaby Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 they are both 22 and dont work Link to comment
Momene Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 you are not being unreasonable at all.. That is one of the rudest things i've heard in a long time!! What the heck does she mean she didn't have anything to wear? you mean if your shrit wasn't there she would have had to go topless?!?! Yea right. Whatever.....she just liked it and wanted to wear it and then used that as an excuse!!! I can't believe she would wear your shirt... to me that is unthinkable.. even if it was someone's OLD shirt, I can't believe she had the gall to put it on. Unbeleivable.. and then trying to put a guilt trip on you by saying 'now we have to take the children's presents back?" gimme a break. How old is the couple? Doesn't matter how old they are, it is ridiculously immature. ... and poor sighted if she thought she could fit into a size 8!!! Link to comment
dontwantthis Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 She should replace the shirt, no questions or complaints. I understand that some peoples situations are different and they may not be able to buy you a replacement shirt right away (them saying that they will need to take the childrens gifts back), which could be the truth or a load of crap. Give her a little time to pay for a replacement shirt. Within reason of course! Im sure they will be receiving some type of money for Christmas......which will be perfect to be spent on your new shirt As for your bf, there are clearly some underlying issues with him and his brother if this has caused a problem between the two of them Some people are very passive and people who are aggressive will take full advantage of that. Anyways, it has to do with you and her. Not your bf and his brother. Link to comment
Momene Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 She should replace the shirt, no questions or complaints. I understand that some peoples situations are different and they may not be able to buy you a replacement shirt right away (them saying that they will need to take the childrens gifts back), which could be the truth or a load of crap. Give her a little time to pay for a replacement shirt. Within reason of course! Im sure they will be receiving some type of money for Christmas......which will be perfect to be spent on your new shirt As for your bf, there are clearly some underlying issues with him and his brother if this has caused a problem between the two of them Some people are very passive and people who are aggressive will take full advantage of that. Anyways, it has to do with you and her. Not your bf and his brother. Hasn't she got a credit card!!??? Link to comment
roxybaby Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 thanks for all your replies i wouldnt miss the t-shirt but its hard to see someone you love having the *** took out of them because they dont like upsetting people. it gets right on my goat Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 it's maybe something you should talk to your boyfriend about. now, i am a pretty agreeable person myself, but sometimes you have to stand up for yourself. there are times you let something slide, and other times not so much..... in the past, i wish i had been more enforcing about buying things like concert tickets, and then people never paying me back.... that was rude of them. anyways, the bottom line is that your bf's brother and gf ruined your christmas gift, and they should replace it. it doesn't matter if the gift was a $5 box of chocolates or a designer t-shirt. don't borrow something you're not willing to replace. and why would she even think of trying to squeeze her way into your shirt? sheesh. Link to comment
raffi_FL Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 It's good that you are sticking with what you believe in even though your boyfriend doesn't want to upset them. Too many people try and make the girlfriend seem like the bad guy especially when they are friends with the boyfriend. Sometimes I think that the idea of a girlfriend has a stigma attached to it. It doesn't make you any less correct. Link to comment
Censored Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 welcome to enotalone. why not give someone a box of half-eaten chocolates, or a half-used bottle of lotion, or a half-drunk bottle of wine? very rude. Oh well, lets not be too strict here annie, I would definetly accept the half eaten chockies and wine...... Link to comment
DN Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 I understand about the shirt. But there is a concern where you say this is the second time something similar has happened: this is the second person hes fell out with because of me and im just getting everything wrapped around my neck xx Obviously we don't know what happened the first time but I would be careful about falling out with people and expecting your boyfriend to intervene every time. Link to comment
roxybaby Posted December 4, 2007 Author Share Posted December 4, 2007 the 1st person was a mate of his who he used to steal before he met me he wanted him to do a job i said no i didnt him to go they fell out because he said he needed him and he was choosing me over him thus my b.f feeling guilty for not backing him him up Link to comment
annie24 Posted December 4, 2007 Share Posted December 4, 2007 i think you were right in discouraging him from stealing. so, if you weren't there, your bf would have gone out on the 'job' with him? maybe your boyfriend needs a better moral compass. Link to comment
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