This chick "wows" me...how to move things along

[DaXMan]

I haven't been around here in a while (enjoying college, work/grades, etc.), but I need a bit of insight about a recent development. Basically, I have once again fallen for a girl, but this girl is different. What do I mean? Well, read below (a little long though).

 

Part I: How do I know her, and does anyone even know I "like" her?

A few weeks ago, I met her when she and her friends were chillin' on my floor after I got back from a friend's apartment. Nothing more happened that night, but it does mark the first time I met her. I happened to see her a couple more times the next couple weeks (before the longer one I'll explain later);

- The next night, she saw me at "Late Night" (snack place in the dorm, obiovusly at night time), hugged me a little, and then I sat with her at Late Night as well (i had a few friends, she had one friend w/ her).

Then I saw her at a party, but she was constantly being hit on so I just said "hey, what's up?" and went about my way, but that didn't stop her from texting my floor friend, telling him she saw me.

-The fourth time I saw her, a small group of girls were chillin on our floor. I got there towards the end b/c I was out earlier. My friends got on the topic of FIFA (because they always play), one kid said he's good at Madden, I calmly let him know I don't lose in Madden, but the girl smiled and said "I'll beat ya in Madden" with a little smile. We had some good eye contact too, but keep in mind we both had a little to drink.

 

Now do my friends on the floor know I like her? Yes, they do. I tipped off one of my friends, saying I am into one of the girls that they know, and he guessed her right away, without hesitation. Actually, all my friends had a feeling I liked her...the other day when we were eating in the dining hall, we each said which of the girls we thought was most attractive; I'm the only one who said her with conviction lol. I am hoping this helps gets things flowing, as my friends will all know of it and one of her friends may get wind of this.

 

Part II - When I really began "falling" for her

A couple days ago over the weekend, I was leaving the dining hall when I saw a girl look up and was waving to me (she had a smile I think) when we made eye contact - it was her, and she was sitting with a friend. I don't know what it was, but all of a sudden my nerves were tingling; I was nervous. Usually this doesn't happen until I actually ask a girl out, but for some reason, she had "something." I walked over, asked how she was doing, and I made a great "neg hit" unintentionally. She looked really attractive in the glasses she was wearing, so I said "nice shades, nice glasses." All of a sudden, her smile goes away and she says "you can leave now" and points to the door. Because I was unsually nervous, I was a little stunned, but a moment later she laughed and said she was just playin.' We talked for another minute or so, but I wanted to keep it quick and let her know I was on my way to the gym (I had my workout clothes on anyway and it was true, so it wasn't me trying to show off).

 

So there's everything that has happened so far. As I mentioned above, I don't know what it is with this girl, but she's "different." She's easygoing and not snobby, she's fun, and she's attractive. I usually don't get nervous talking to girls I like, but I am tingling when I talk to her; heck I even feel tingly just thinking about her.

 

Of course, there are some potential obstacles as well. First, she is a Freshmen (I'm a Sophomore), and a lot of these girls are just looking for a good time and nothing more. Next, I really don't see her that often. In 3 weeks I think I've seen her 5 times, and 4 of those times was weekend nights when there were "beverages" consumed, but neither of us were drunk. Finally, things tend to go South the moment I ask a girl out and she says no - it gets awkward and whenever I try to generate a conversation a few days later, the girl seems aloof and distant.

 

So, I know this post is a bit long, but what should I do next? I will get her # the next time I speak with her and we are alone, since I haven't had that chance yet (other people were around). One of my buddies back home who is decent with the ladies advises I try to just hang out with her before doing anything exclusive, because when I ask a girl out and it doesn't work, things go bad even if almost every case involves a girl from my high school. What do you think?

[ghost69]

awww, dax has a crush. lol. make a move man next time you see her. run up to her and act like you are trying to catch your breath. be like 'uh uh. uh.' like you just ran miles. 'i need you to write your phone number down so i can call you.' lol. charming in know.

 

naw but seriously, hit her up. she is driving you nuts, make a move before some jack ash does.

[amtjrtcet]

I agree w/ghost, make a move. Don't let get away with out trying.

[Dating Coach]

Now do my friends on the floor know I like her? Yes, they do. I tipped off one of my friends, saying I am into one of the girls that they know, and he guessed her right away, without hesitation. Actually, all my friends had a feeling I liked her...the other day when we were eating in the dining hall, we each said which of the girls we thought was most attractive; I'm the only one who said her with conviction lol. I am hoping this helps gets things flowing, as my friends will all know of it and one of her friends may get wind of this.

 

It's not wise to go telling everyone (and I consider that telling everyone) that you like a girl. It WILL get back to her. Plus, if you don't get on the ball and she knows you like her this just lessens your chances.

 

Bro, when you are interested in a girl, don't go around telling everyone. You're in college now, not 5th grade. Go ask the girl out.

 

Part II - When I really began "falling" for her

 

Falling for a girl before you ever make a move often ends up bad. You start creating more pressure than is necessary and it often makes building chemistry much more difficult. Try to keep your emotions in check or at least ask the girl out to find out if she is interested before you get too emotionally attached.

 

So there's everything that has happened so far. As I mentioned above, I don't know what it is with this girl, but she's "different." She's easygoing and not snobby, she's fun, and she's attractive. I usually don't get nervous talking to girls I like, but I am tingling when I talk to her; heck I even feel tingly just thinking about her.

 

Whoa, slow down Dax! You don't even know she is interested yet! Get on the ball RIGHT NOW. I'm serious, go find her right now and ask her out to miniature golfing, a drink, lunch, SOMETHING. You need an answer ASAP because you're getting way too attached to someone whom you don't even know would give you the time of day.

 

Of course, there are some potential obstacles as well. First, she is a Freshmen (I'm a Sophomore), and a lot of these girls are just looking for a good time and nothing more. Next, I really don't see her that often. In 3 weeks I think I've seen her 5 times, and 4 of those times was weekend nights when there were "beverages" consumed, but neither of us were drunk. Finally, things tend to go South the moment I ask a girl out and she says no - it gets awkward and whenever I try to generate a conversation a few days later, the girl seems aloof and distant.

 

Those aren't obstacles. Get on the ball bro, ask her out.

[DaXMan]

haha I agree with all of you, next time I see her I'll get her #, possibly ask her out as well.

 

Ghost: haha yeah I guess you can call this a crush.

 

Dating Coach (I like the new name lol): I didn't tell everyone; to be honest, I didn't tell anyone. I told that one friend I like "someone", he guessed her name and I didn't say no (I didn't say yes either). My intention here was that they see her more than I do...considering I don't see her that much, if they are aware I like her, they won't tell her, but they could put us in a situation where we are together. Other than that, I will do SOMETHING next time I see her.

 

Thanks for the advice, if anyone has anything else to say, feel free to write it here.

[ghost69]

get this crush off your chest. to me, a crush is a 'what if' 'what if' type deal. you can drive yourself crazy with it. once you really know, whether it goes towards yes or no, (didn't mean to rhyme) the crush can pass much easier. knowing is better than wondering.

[DaXMan]

get this crush off your chest. to me, a crush is a 'what if' 'what if' type deal. you can drive yourself crazy with it. once you really know, whether it goes towards yes or no, (didn't mean to rhyme) the crush can pass much easier. knowing is better than wondering.

 

Exactly. Next time I see her and talk to her, I'll see where things are going.

[ghost69]

Exactly. Next time I see her and talk to her, I'll see where things are going.

 

you don't have to walk up and be like 'want to go out?' that's too direct. start up a basic conversation. ask about something she is wearing. compliment on something else. then you can really tell by talking to her if you want the phone number. and yes, get the number, not an email or an IM name. some people do this for some reason.