When someone doesn't email you back after you ask them to..

[Mandyish]

Very curious why if you are in a relationship, things aren't going so well maybe, so you ask them to just be honest and tell you if they want to be with you or not, why won't they email you and tell you? So every day, I check my email to see if he responded yet! Why not just tell me instead of making me look at my email every day? I even said "I can handle it, just be brutally honest." Still nothing!! Why?! Is it just emotional immaturity? He is only 28 and not alot of relationships in his past but still!!!

[princess_summer_blue84]

Well ............... it's sounds very obvious to me that he or she isn't interested in talking to you and really isn't interested in dating you. I'm so sorry that you have experinced this . Better now than never and make this a learning experience too.

[Lana0120]

I think it depends on how long he has been ignoring you for. However, generally I would agree with the above post, that rather than driving yourself crazy it's probably better to chalk it up to experience and try and take your mind off the situation.

[Mandyish]

It's been 3 days. When do I stop checking?!

[Lana0120]

Out of curiosity... is there any other way you have of contacting him? If so, maybe you should think about doing that. Also, what exactly happened prior to you sending him the e-mail inviting brutal honesty? Had you not heard from him for some time prior to that?

[Mandyish]

He went to his family's home for thanksgiving. Said he would bring his laptop and be in touch. This is an internet relationship btw. Didn't hear from him the whole time (4 days). So I sent him an email saying it's over since he didn't obviously want to contact me. He sent me an email back a few days later saying he didn't contact me cuz he was in the hospital for part of the time with eye issues. So I apologized. Oh this is such a long story but basically, he said he didn't know what he wanted to do about us anymore in the last email to me a week ago. So 3 days ago I asked him to just tell me and be honest. What do you think?

[princess_summer_blue84]

It's been 3 days. When do I stop checking?!

 

OK! It'a only been 3 days here so lets stop and think, he's a guy . Guys usually don't answer you back right away why well b/c : 1) he's busy 2) is out with guys 3 ) is working or just simply what I've posted before that there " Not that into you " . Also like I've been told pick up the book " Not that into you " and read it . I know that I have check on it and yea it may sound harsh but it's the truth. once again I'm sorry you had to go throu this. Chin up girl .

[darkpumpkin]

I have to agree with the above posts to a point. It seems from what you have said that he could (1) not know how to end this and is doing it in a very unfair way by ignoring you (2) is really not sure what he wants.

 

Either way I think the best for you to do is back off. Decide yourself if you want this, leave the emails be for a while and really look at do you want a guy who can just tune you out? Either way he seems to want space from you, why not give it?

[Mandyish]

Deep down I know this guy isn't right for me. I don't know why I even keep checking to be honest. I guess I just wish he would say it's over so I could move on. For some reason, I can't say it. Dumb, dumb, dumb

[darkpumpkin]

I think at times it's easier for us to hear "it's over" then to accept it without the words. I know in my case I tell myself over and over and over....and then again. There are moments its hard but in the end you eventually believe it. Hope that helps a bit.

[Mandyish]

Yes, you are right. I keep making excuses for him.

[Momene]

Some people don't know what they want but (again) they can be honest about that, too. Sometimes its a sign of emotional immaturity but so metimes life changes and there's a lot of adjustment to be made.

 

For example, my wife and I are anything from 2 to 5 years away from becoming empty nesters and its another stage of life we have to adjust to.