My ex and our weird situation

[Iwantittoend]

I've posted a ton about our weird situation. We still cuddle, hold hands, kiss, feel each other up, etc. We can talk to each other about anything and are closer than ever before. But she is going into the army in a month for basic training and leaving me behind. Because of this, she doesn't want to get into a serious relationship.

 

Tonight we were talking about the future and she asked me something that I didn't expect. Basically that she knows for at least 20 years, her life is going to be dedicated to the Air Force. She doesn't want to have kids or get married until the 20 years are up. She doesn't want to settle down until it's over with. She asked if it would be fine with me if I ever had to wait that long. It came off kind of weird to me, and I told her that for the right girl, I'd wait as long as I had to. She took it well and told me she was happy that I supported her even though I didn't agree with her going anyways.

 

Has this ever happened to anyone else? Where a girl wants to be with you, but can't fully commit because of other obligations like this?

[LilBear]

I told her that for the right girl, I'd wait as long as I had to.

 

Do you think she is the right girl for you? If she is, you wouldn't have any problems waiting for her. Maybe you're just insecure as to what they future may bring for the both of you. Only time can tell and only you can decide whether you really want to be with someone who finds it hard to be with you, in return, physically.

[Calilove]

She took it well and told me she was happy that I supported her even though I didn't agree with her going anyways.

 

 

In reguards to the quote: I think you should be honest with yourself and decide wether or not waiting 20 years will make you happy. You say you didn't agree with her going anyways.

 

I think 20 years is a long time for anyone to put their life on hold for someone. I personally know many people who plan on being in the military for the rest of their careers (beyond 20 years) who still start relationships, commit and get married. I'm not trying to judge, I just think its a really long time for you to wait. Anyway take your time and really think things through!!!

[Iwantittoend]

In reguards to the quote: I think you should be honest with yourself and decide wether or not waiting 20 years will make you happy. You say you didn't agree with her going anyways.

 

I think 20 years is a long time for anyone to put their life on hold for someone. I personally know many people who plan on being in the military for the rest of their careers (beyond 20 years) who still start relationships, commit and get married. I'm not trying to judge, I just think its a really long time for you to wait. Anyway take your time and really think things through!!!

 

I basically told her that right now I'd be willing to wait, but who knows what would happen in the future. People change and my beliefs might change. I might meet someone great in that time period. I really don't know. I can't speak for myself for what I'll be doing in 20 years.

 

Have you ever heard of someone saying this before? I mean, 20 years is going to be forever. I want to be married and have kids one day. In 20 years, I'll already be 39. It just seems like such a long time.