I want to be on his mind all day long.

[My3sStillRacing]

I've been crushing on the same guy for 3 months, but have recently met someone else, who is needless to say a lot more open, a lot more upfront, and a lot more confident.

 

I KNOW guy #1 likes me. And I can't get with guy #2 no matter how much I like him, knowing that guy #1 was just too shy to make a move.

 

Give me ideas on how I can hint that I want him. Bad. Just to see if he'll step up his game before he loses his chance.

 

I hear lip licking with eye contact is good. I try to be playful. When we argue, or pretend argue, I feel like I really have his attention and he can't help but smile when he sees me afterwards. Also, whenever I'm distracted and not intently focused on what he's saying.. I feel like he tries that much harder to get my attention.

 

Should I mention guy #2 subtly and see if he gets competitive? Or will he possibly just forfeit? I

 

I need to know if there's a shot before I move on...

I'm not ready to give up on him yet.

 

ANY advice would be helpful. Thanks.

[now_better]

this might be crazy... borderline insane, but why don't you just ask him out?

[someguy88]

Why don't you just ask him out?

 

If he's a shy guy I wouldn't mention guy #2. Actually, even if he was aggressive I still don't think you should mention guy #2.

 

I'm pretty aggressive when I'm into a woman and if I think she knows that I'm into her and she starts dropping comments to manipulate me, I get turned off pretty quick. I think a lot of guys are like me in this respect. I don't mind competition, but when a woman plays with my competitive spirit I'll just find someone more worthy of my attention.

[JeckyllNHyde]

I agree about asking him out..

You didn't end up sending him the note anymore?

[servedcold]

Why on earth would you prefer guy #1 without confidence or candor to guy #2 who is being upfront and acting like a man in pursuing you? Women amaze me sometimes...

[ghost69]

she is wanting this guy cause he isn't showing any signs of interest. the more accessible guy is gonna get kicked to the curb. it drives some women nuts when a guy shows no interest.

[My3sStillRacing]

Why on earth would you prefer guy #1 without confidence or candor to guy #2 who is being upfront and acting like a man in pursuing you? Women amaze me sometimes...

Haha, unfortunately I have no answer to that. But I have liked him for a very long time, for reasons other then the fact that he doesn't show that he's interested.

 

I agree about asking him out..

You didn't end up sending him the note anymore?

I did more than just that. I asked him face to face. He turned me down for that evening after a long hesitant pause, so I felt like an idiot, but the next day [his birthday] he called me to see if I wanted to reschedule for that afternoon. We've gotten closer since. But friends closer. We talk everyday, we have inside jokes... but I still can't help but feel an insane attraction towards him. Maybe he's just meant to be a fantasy though. I mean.. guy#2 is putting far more effort then he ever has.

 

Ohh, why do my hopes have to be so high?

Oh yes, I remember.. because I'm such a dreamer. : (

[My3sStillRacing]

she is wanting this guy cause he isn't showing any signs of interest. the more accessible guy is gonna get kicked to the curb. it drives some women nuts when a guy shows no interest.

I think it's true. There's something about a guy that isn't attracted to you, hahaha.

[JeckyllNHyde]

It's about taking chances. It's not as fun when you know the guy is already so much into you already.

It's more fun when you go for the risky one with hopes and then to see it turn out awesome in the end. That's why you just can't go for guy #2 right away lol. That would be too easy a choice..