Not sure if she is really ready...

[woundedheart541]

My fiancee and I have been apart for three years now, but see each other often. She says she loves me, but then does not talk to me for a day or two. I pay most her bills, am here when ever she needs me or wants me. I am the one thing in her life that she knows she can always count on to be there. I do everything for her, but she seems to be preoccupied, I know she loves me, maybe not enough though... She means more to me than my own life, but I dont know what to do or think.

[DN]

Why are you paying most of her bills?

[woundedheart541]

She just started a new job and is trying to get back on her feet.

[Jayar]

Okay, I'm confused by your post... By "apart" do you mean there's distance (ie. an LDR) or is your relationship broken up? If the latter, she's just taking advantage of you, friend. Drop her like a hot rock and move on. There's no logical reason for a three year engagement, during which you are not technically "together".

[woundedheart541]

sorry, yes its a LDR. She has three sons from a previous relationship, I also have two waiting on the last one to graduate this year. So we are trying to let the kids graduate from the schools all their friends are at. She lived her with me for three yrs before returning to be right there with her sons.

[DN]

I think you should talk to her and ask her what's going on. There is a possibility you are being used here - make sure that you are not.

[ghost69]

i see you being used here. fiancee of 3 years and an LDR. just sounds 'iffy' to me.

[Rabican]

try not to be so available to her. I hate games, and refuse to play them in a relationship. But if you make yourself into a doormat, ie paying everything, doing everything for her, being at her beck and call... she will get bored of you. Tell her no once in a while, do your own thing, make her pay you back when you pay her bills (later when she can). She will probably respect you more for it.