toughlife86 Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 hi everyone! ok well i told her about the new guy and said that i knew she had left me for him, as this guy worked with her and she dumped and started dating him 3 weeks later! anyway i said that and that i think its better not to stay in contact. she evenn told me when she broke up with me that she didnt love me anymore! anyway she replied and denied that she broke up with me for someone else and that she was only interested in him a few weeks later after we broke up..which is a lie since she started a relationship with him 3 weeks later. anyway she said that and that she would like to keep in touch and that if i cant manage to stay in touch she will understand, then she said merry chritmas.... we been broken up for a very long time well since beginning of august! and she has contacted me 2 times already! this girl is in a new relationship, why does she keep contacting..i dont want to stay in touch with her! and am pretty sure she lleft me for the other guy but it was expected she would deny it! why would she deny it and what do u think i should do..am goin nc with her again..why does she wana b friends!!!! thanx Link to comment
CarnelianButterfly Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 Do not talk to her. You are splits, her dating life is none of your business, move on. Link to comment
thouse Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 She wants to be friends with you just in case things don't work out with the new guy, and I wouldn't give her the satisfaction. A real friend would have told you the truth not deny what is so obvious, so also that says she will lie. If you don't want to be in contact with her, than don't. You owe her nothing. Link to comment
emalkoc Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 I had the same thing happened...She has found lame excuses for why our relationship not working and then she started with this guy 5 week after... Few times she contacted to me and she cried when she saw me with someone else at a club...then she called me numerously to get her message that she does not want to be hurt like that Anyways, as long as they are with someone else, the best bet is not to be friends...but we have to get message to them... Cheers Eric Link to comment
Crows Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 I believe my ex left me for someone else. She couldn't decide so she pushed my jealousy button hard one night and it made me angry and that set in motion the "talks" and the eventual ending of the relationship. She said she didn't know what to do. and when I would ask her, she wouldn't say anything. She is now going out with a new guy two months after.. and i'm pretty sure they have been going out for a while. She tried to hide the fact that she had a new bf. For whatever reason. Very very cold. I really wish she would have just told me earlier. It's only drawn out the pain for me. And now looking back, I was sending her nice emails, replying to texts while I didn't even know she had a bf. How stupid do you think I feel now? She has recently reached out and said she wished we talked more. But since then she hasn't contacted me. Ughhh, Link to comment
DN Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 I think that exes tend to do this because they have a sense of guilt and want to pretend to themselves, and possibly their friends, that they are kind and only have the best interests of the ex at heart. They can't bear to be thought of in a bad light - even by themselves. Link to comment
Crows Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 I think that exes tend to do this because they have a sense of guilt and want to pretend to themselves, and possibly their friends, that they are kind and only have the best interests of the ex at heart. They can't bear to be thought of in a bad light - even by themselves. That's exactly it. I have a feeling my ex is only contacting me to alleviate herself from any guilt. And that hurts... especially when she texts me telling me she worries about me or cares. She very well may care, but in the end it's for her own self satisfaction. Link to comment
LilBear Posted December 2, 2007 Share Posted December 2, 2007 I think she's just keeping you on the back burner. You used to make her feel special and all and she is just keeping you around so that she could continue to feel special, but not exactly wanting to get back together. Stick to NC - this is what I will tell most people these days...ever since I realized how important NC is by screwing up. Hope you are able to learn from my mistakes. Link to comment
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