broke up with her, but I needed to.

[findingmeandyou]

Has anyone ever broken up with someone, because you felt that they were into you as much as you were into them? You figured you should just do it before you got hurt?

[Zackinlaw]

did you mean "weren't into you"?

 

I've never done it, but it makes sense IF she is not into you enough to sustain a romantic relationship. But there will usually if not always be some inequality of feelings as well as differences in how we express them, so maybe you are overanalyzing.

 

What makes you think she is less into you than you are into her?

 

Zack.

[Mavh25]

Don't you think it was too late anyway?

[findingmeandyou]

did you mean "weren't into you"?

 

I've never done it, but it makes sense IF she is not into you enough to sustain a romantic relationship. But there will usually if not always be some inequality of feelings as well as differences in how we express them, so maybe you are overanalyzing.

 

What makes you think she is less into you than you are into her?

 

Zack.

 

 

Yes, you're right. Made a mistake as I was typing. There were a few reasons why I did it really. I've talked about some of them on here before. Last night kinda "did it" for me. I'll explain what happened.

 

I only got to see her once this week on Thursday. I tried to make plans with her on Sunday (so in advance), but she said she couldn't do anything until Thursday. During the week, she hung out alot with her friends, so that definitely made me feel like I wasn't very high on the list. Things used to be better, but a few weeks ago things just changed. I suddenly just wasn't a priority to her anymore.

 

I drove out to see her on Thursday night. It was a long drive for me. She's about 30 miles away, but with traffic, it took me about hour and a half to get there. After only about 2 hours (around 8:45), she told me she was tired and that I should go. That made me feel badly too. We had plans for Saturday (today), so I told her I would see her today. I told her she could come out my way whenever she wanted, cause I really wanted to see her, esp because I didn't see her much this week.

 

So anyway, there's this party on Saturday that her friend invited us to. Like I said, I told her that she could come here whenever, so we could spend time together. She decides she would come right when we would have to leave to go to her friends house, which is about an hour from me. SHe doesn't have a car, so I would have to pick her up from the train station and drive. I'm kinda like ok...There are so many earlier trains she could have taken so we could have spent some time alone together, and I felt kinda hurt that she would just come out in time for me to take her to her friend's place.

 

Then, we are talking on the phone last night, and she tells me her friends party might not happen, so we are tyring to work out a backup plan. I suggest that she coudl still come out here and we could go to some bars whatever around my town. She says she wants me to come out her way again, and I'm like "but I just came out there...why can't you this time?"

 

Her voice just got really low an unenthused. I could tell that she wasn't liking the idea for some reason. TO me, it felt like if she couldn't go to the party or whatever, she just didn't want to make the effort, possibly didn't want to see me.

 

Like I said, some other things have happened over the past few weeks...mostly her just being flaky about making plans. I just got tired of it, and I figured it shouldn't be this hard.

[JadedStar]

I think if MORE people did this there would be fewer heartbreaks to be honest.

 

I think you did the right thing. Not much of a fulfilling partnership when one isn't into it very much.

 

When you find a girl who is as into you as you are her you will no longer question breaking up with this one at all.

[Zackinlaw]

I've seen that pattern on a lot of posts here. Did her interest in you change suddenly? She may have found someone else.

 

Zack.

[findingmeandyou]

I've seen that pattern on a lot of posts here. Did her interest in you change suddenly? She may have found someone else.

 

Zack.

 

Yeah, it honestly did. One weekend, she broke plans at the last minute and things have not been the same since then. The thing that really annoyed me was that I even tried to talk to her about it. She said she wasn't seeing anyone else.

 

However, things still stayed the same. So, when last night happened, I was just like no way. There's something else wrong, and I don't feel like being in a situation where she's playing dumb with me.

 

I really felt trapped. She wanted things to be exclusive, but wasn't giving me the time I felt I needed for this to go anywhere. After I ended things last night, we got off the phone, and then she texted me saying I'm such a "great guy" and she thought I was being hasty. I get even more annoyed, because I felt like she was just playing around with me.

 

It's like, if I am so great, why not come hang out with me? Why do I have to be last in line? Why do I have to make so much effort all the time and then be tossed out like she was doing?

 

If I am such a "great" guy, then why no time for me? It just made me even more annoyed, so I have not responded to her. I just want her to leave me alone, so I can forget about her and move on.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Good for you that you stuck up for yourself. You deserve much better than what she was offering you. Stick to no contact...she will probably try to contact you and pretend nothing is wrong. Unless she owns up to her behaviour and works on herself, don't get caught up in her attempts to be in touch. She really needs to get a grip on the way she was treating you, and that epiphany won't happen overnight (if ever).

[findingmeandyou]

...she will probably try to contact you and pretend nothing is wrong.

 

I've had girls do this to me before. Why do people do that?