Anyone meet love of their life in there late 30's/40's?

[bella2007]

Anyone find love later in life??? The "one" you married???

[SW]

I thought I did,...twice..but learned there's a reason why good looking women in their 30's are still single.

[shes2smart]

I met my husband when I was 37. We got married a few weeks after my 38th birthday. First marriage for me. He made the classic mistake of getting married too young (19, for God's sake) and was divorced.

 

He's 11 years younger than I am.

[theonethatiwant]

Oh please SW....

 

Yes I did find the one when I was 45. But marriage had nothing to do with it. I had been married twice before and when I met 'THE ONE".

[poloplayer]

I'm in my 20s, but one of the greatest men I've ever met married when he was 35/36; they met ~2 years before marrying. And no, this isn't a case of money, wealth, etc., nothing like that.

 

Sometimes you just have not met the right person. My manager has many friends who are single in there early 30s. These are great people; very educated; very successful, but they haven't met the right person yet. They won't just take someone just because.

[ButterflyWrists]

My mum met her "The One" when she was in late 40's. and he was in his early-ish 50's.. something like that anyway lol.

[keenan]

I thought I did,...twice..but learned there's a reason why good looking women in their 30's are still single.

 

Hey, watch it! Cross-check into the boards.

 

Some single women in their 30s simply got married way too young the first time...and then they find true love.

[shes2smart]

I was single into my 30's because I didn't see marriage as a desirable option for me until I got to be 36-ish.

 

I had 2 opportunities to get married prior to my mid-30's, but (thankfully) turned them down. One woulda been with my college bf...we were both too young. The other woulda been with my abusive alcoholic ex...that woulda been a real great choice

 

Way I see it, I got all the screwing around (both in a non-sexual sense and a sexual sense) and a lot of growing up & getting to really know myself done and out of the way while I was single. When I met my husband I knew that I was ready to make that kind of commitment to someone that marriage requires.

[bella2007]

Glad to read that there is still a chance to find love out of your teens & twenties. Sometimes I feel like I'm running out of time.

[silly9907]

I think age hasn't thing to do with it. It's just you didn't meet the RIGHT person. Sometime single people meet the RIGHT person in the late 30's/40's but their marriage last. I rather meet the RIGHT person married late, but our love is true and faithful.

[hopefulromantic79]

I think age hasn't thing to do with it. It's just you didn't meet the RIGHT person. Sometime single people meet the RIGHT person in the late 30's/40's but their marriage last. I rather meet the RIGHT person married late, but our love is true and faithful.

I feel the same way. It'd be easier to find him now...but I can't experience another heartbreak. So if it takes waiting 10, 20 years to find the right one who will love me just for me...I'm going to wait for that. No more frogs in my future, please!!!

[silly9907]

I feel the same way. It'd be easier to find him now...but I can't experience another heartbreak. So if it takes waiting 10, 20 years to find the right one who will love me just for me...I'm going to wait for that. No more frogs in my future, please!!!

 

same here, been there and done it too many time. Eveytime my heart break and it bleeding. So if it does take that time to find the right person. I'll wait but don't want to go through the heartbreak again and again.

[Batya33]

In the last 6 years I've gone to 8 weddings of women who met their husbands in their 30s and know of at least 9 others including one or two in her 40s. Often "the one" in teens/early twenties is only "the one" for that phase of life.

[Zuzu2]

I see no reason why you can't find the right person in your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc. I'm 35 and never married. I'm glad I never married any of the guys I've dated in the past. I figure the right people come into my life at the right time.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

happens all the time! if you've looked at wedding annoucements these days, there are many gray haired people in those photos too!

[JadedStar]

Sure did. I was 37 when we started dating and 39 when we got married.

Altho ahem, to bestrongbehappy, not a gray hair number one in my wedding photos. LOL

 

But you know what? I also met the right one when i was 20. When i got maried to my first husband he was right for me for a good long time before it spiraled downward. The relatinoship reached its shelf life. Big deal, this happens. But for a long time he was the "one".

 

I think it is a real fairytale to think we'd meet someone at 19 and stay with that one person our entire lives. For most of us relationships change not from failure but healthiness and necessity.

[Altruist]

I think marriage has nothing to do with age within reasonable limits. Too many people marry early just to fit in or because its *expected*. It's not surprising that in these cases these marriages often don't survive long. One shoud marry when he/she feels that they are ready to do so not because of social expectations.

[BronzedSkin123]

I don't want to find love in my 30s. I want to find it NOW, I'd hate to go all through my 20s without a single man to share it with. That is just torture to me. If I had some relationships to pass time then it wouldn't be so bad. But I just will not accept being single all the way until I am in my 30s and beyond HELL NO.

[Kiwi_Sweet]

I met my husband when I was 37. We got married a few weeks after my 38th birthday. First marriage for me. He made the classic mistake of getting married too young (19, for God's sake) and was divorced.

 

He's 11 years younger than I am.

 

ehh.. That's weird, but love comes in different shapes and sizes. Are you still together with him?

 

What does he do?

 

What do you do?

 

Will that create a weird transition when you retire?

 

Just curious.

[shes2smart]

ehh.. That's weird, but love comes in different shapes and sizes. Are you still together with him?

 

What does he do?

 

What do you do?

 

Will that create a weird transition when you retire?

 

Just curious.

 

Still married, still ridiculously happy with each other.

 

I'm a radio dj and he does call center work. Seein' as how I've spent my entire adult life in the radio business, I will never be able to afford to retire.

 

But, really, I don't see where it would. I don't have any great aspirations of packing my crap up in a motor home and RVing accross the US in my retirement or setting up house in Florida or Arizona.

 

I've worked at least one job (and sometimes 2 or 3 jobs) continuously since I was 17. Never wanted kids, so I never had kids. Never done the Suzie Homemaker/housewife thing. It might be a nice change of pace in another 20 or so years....well, the housewife thing. The kid thing is right out.