z9z Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 hii everyone i hope i can get all your opinions cause i really do need help you guys i met a guy in university he liked me alot and i had a crush on him too !! we are together now i feel happy with him though he is so strict but here is the problem i am 19 he is 17 !!!! sometimes i feel thats okay with me sometimes i feel am too old for him sometimes i feel i am talking to a kid or not a kid someone that is younger two years . he is thinking of us getting married but his dad told him still alot i mean 5 years or something i dont feel okay with that but i like him not love yet but i cant break up i sound so confused thats why i need your help please ! Link to comment
NewPhillyGuy Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 hii everyone i hope i can get all your opinions cause i really do need help you guys i met a guy in university he liked me alot and i had a crush on him too !! we are together now i feel happy with him though he is so strict but here is the problem i am 19 he is 17 !!!! sometimes i feel thats okay with me sometimes i feel am too old for him sometimes i feel i am talking to a kid or not a kid someone that is younger two years . he is thinking of us getting married but his dad told him still alot i mean 5 years or something i dont feel okay with that but i like him not love yet but i cant break up i sound so confused thats why i need your help please ! How long have you been with him? I assume you are saying that you do not like the marriage talk. Some people your age will get married. Others will wait until they are older. You need to do what's right for you. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Why 'can't' you break up with him, and what do you mean 'he is so strict'. He's 17 years old, he can sometimes seem immature and yet he's already talking about marriage as well? The personality factors don't sound like he is that right for you. Link to comment
z9z Posted November 30, 2007 Author Share Posted November 30, 2007 How long have you been with him? I assume you are saying that you do not like the marriage talk. Some people your age will get married. Others will wait until they are older. You need to do what's right for you. i have been with him for 1 month Link to comment
z9z Posted November 30, 2007 Author Share Posted November 30, 2007 Why 'can't' you break up with him, and what do you mean 'he is so strict'. He's 17 years old, he can sometimes seem immature and yet he's already talking about marriage as well? The personality factors don't sound like he is that right for you. he is strict .. like dont talk to guys dont go out without me dont do this dont do that ... he is 17 but he is mature sometimes he acts like unmature but i still have no idea if he is the right one for me or no ! is it a problem that i am older than him? Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 The problem isn't so much the age, the problem is him... if he's like that after one month, and he's already talking about marriage, can you imagine what he's going to be like a few months down the line, or even a year later? He sounds very controlling and to be like that at 17, doesn't bode well for later. Trust me, he isn't right for you. Dump him. Link to comment
Paratus Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 he is strict .. like dont talk to guys dont go out without me dont do this dont do that ... he is 17 but he is mature sometimes he acts like unmature but i still have no idea if he is the right one for me or no ! is it a problem that i am older than him? It's not a problem of age, at all. The problem is definitely the way he's acting, and that's a big problem. I'd never tell my girlfriend to do any of the things he's saying. If he's so insecure that he won't let you talk to other guys then get rid of him. Seriously, I remember back in police college we'd speak about spousal abuse and, I don't want to jump to any crazy conclusions or anything but, those things you mentioned him saying are some of the very things we discussed that type of guy doing to control their significant others. In my opinion you should dump him and forget him.. and sooner rather than later. Link to comment
Momene Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Also a month is early days. He's probably got dumpophobia and will feel more secure when you've been together a bit longer. Link to comment
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