veryniceshirt Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Short and quick: I've had my eye on someone for quite some time now. I've known her almost 5 years but the whole time we've both been in relationships or complicated situations. She just, and I mean JUST, got out of a long relationship of over 3 years. I've been single for about 6 months now. I've been seeing random people but nothing great has happened... Well now we are both single at the same time. How do I know when I should go for it? You know, ask her out or something? I'm pretty sure she knows I'm interested and I think she's interested too. I don't want to be a rebound kind of fling thing tho. That might be OK with another girl maybe but not with her. She just blows me away. What do I do? I don't want to miss my chance... Link to comment
alexia denise Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 well if s he know your intrested then there is no time like the present. look love doesn't wait neither should you ! hurry up before someone snatches her away from u if u truly love her!! good luck send an update Link to comment
ActionJackson Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Comfort and support is a much welcomed gift in her situation. Now is not the time, but it will come. Improve the relationship and make it strong, so when she's ready it will be an authentic relationship. Link to comment
Entropy Smith Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 If you accept the theory that you teach people how to treat you (and that theory was around in many forms when Dr.Phil was still coaching JV football) then you can teach her that you are not the rebound guy or a friend. Link to comment
Zuzu2 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 It doesn't have to be a rebound relationship. If she dates you just to not be alone, then yes, that's exactly what it is. But if she wants to be with you it doesn't matter how long you wait. I just just try to ask her out or at least try to hang out with her if you can. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 5 years and you are just now making a move? wow. do it already. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 She's gonna be a rebound girl. Now is not a good time. Try to get friendly with her, and you'll get your chance. At any rate she will appreciate the support. That's not completely true. It depends upon her current state of mind. She could have come out of a 10 year relationship a week ago and yet still feel completely detached from the prior relationship and 100% ready to start a new one. Or, she could be devastated over the recent break up and not be ready at all. The point is, that it seems that "rebound" is a overused term on these forums. None of us here have any idea what state she is in. What do you think OP, does she seem like she's completely passed the prior relationship and ready to date, or is she not? Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 My fiancee and her first serious boyfriend were together 18 months. They split up and she started seeing me a week after. Now we are nearing on 5 years together. So I stand by what I said. Link to comment
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