chitown Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 To be quick, My ex and I have been together for about 2 years. This is the third time she had clammed up and dumped me, and then immediately wants me back. We break up for a week, then she is pursuing me with 100% effort. To clarify, we do not break up for any reason, at least not behavior on my part, which she admits. What does this mean? Will it continue if I take her back? Anyone experience this, and if so is there an inevitable outcome? Any advice is welcome! Link to comment
thekid55 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Be upfront with her. Tell her that you are not her doormat. If she truly cares about you, she wouldn't be doing this to you. Maybe you two need to break off conversation for a little Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 To be quick, My ex and I have been together for about 2 years. This is the third time she had clammed up and dumped me, and then immediately wants me back. We break up for a week, then she is pursuing me with 100% effort. To clarify, we do not break up for any reason, at least not behavior on my part, which she admits. What does this mean? Will it continue if I take her back? Anyone experience this, and if so is there an inevitable outcome? Any advice is welcome! Hi Chitown, and welcome to ENA, Her erratic behaviour sound like it may be a personality disorder: bi-polar, what used to be called manic depression. Maybe look it up on the net, see if any more of her behaviour match the symptoms. I hope not, but it would be best treated, and they have come a long way with that. I know three times in two years is not a large number, but who knows how many other times she contemplated breaking up during this time. If not that... what about another guy... and I mean that respectfully. Best wishes and again welcome. Jeff Link to comment
MeganBug Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 She could like the chase and playing games more than the relationship because she is scared of commitment or whatever. I have been guilty of this before.. Maybe take it slower, don't do anything to scare her, let her choose the pace of the relationship maybe ..or it might be time to move on... Link to comment
chitown Posted November 29, 2007 Author Share Posted November 29, 2007 she went from breaking up to now wanting a ring in about 3 weeks. just the polarity of her behavior is perplexing. Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 she went from breaking up to now wanting a ring in about 3 weeks. just the polarity of her behavior is perplexing. That's why I suggested Bi-polar, because of the radical mood swings and it seems just out of the blue, for no reason. I would think it was worth thinking about, and if so, she can be treated with drugs. I knew someone like this, and they were fine on lithium. Good luck with this guy, and I hope it all works out. Jeffr Link to comment
real_life_101 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 What she is doing, is starting the honeymoon phase over and over again. I was like her earlier in life. When things tended to get boring I would either walk away or break up and make up. Then everything is good for another 6 months and the same thing happens again. Teach her about Relationships tell her to talk to some married people. I learned the honeymmon phase always wears off, but love becomes deeper after that point as boring as it is haha. I learned to stick with the people that treat you good, and that you get along with, but then you have to make sure they are not a honeymoon phaser... Link to comment
Momene Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 What reasons did she give for dumping you? I would have told her when she dumped me the first time that the next time will definitely be for ever and there would be no way back. Link to comment
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