cheesius Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Ex girlfriend who I am still in love with suggested moving in. I moved accross the country, well more or less ran away. We were both in a bad spot. I was having family trouble and a * * * * time at work. She was too. We talk all the time, only when she initiates, and I tell her I love her. She tells me she "luvs" me. I'm moving from Alberta to BC. Thats Ontario, then Alberta, next BC. Now she's moving to the same city. She wants to get a place together to save money I suppose. Do I tell her no because it would kill me to live with her and not be with her? Or do I just go ahead and find a place of my own. I think the latter myself but I've obviously been wrong in the past... I do want to be with her but not yet. I have a lot of things I want to do before I try to get her back. Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Hi Cheesius, Yeah, I wouldn't move in together... I vote No. Just get your own place. Jeffr Link to comment
cheesius Posted November 29, 2007 Author Share Posted November 29, 2007 Yeah, I'm not. Should I tell her why though? Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Yeah, I'm not. Should I tell her why though? No, I would try and avoid that if I wanted to get back someday... I can't really think of any good excuse, but moving in together would court disaster, and like you say kill you on a daily basis. I'll come back to this thread if I think of something good Jeffr Link to comment
cheesius Posted November 29, 2007 Author Share Posted November 29, 2007 Well, not kill me literally. Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Well, not kill me literally. I know. Maybe you could tell her that you found a place you couldn't pass up, but the landlord is strict and won't go for a roomie... say they are just weird that way... Usually, I like to be honest, but sometimes a white lie can save a bunch of awkwardness and bad feelings. In that case it's worth it. Jeffr Link to comment
cheesius Posted November 29, 2007 Author Share Posted November 29, 2007 Nah, she'd see through me. I'll jut drag my feet and move a month later or something. Link to comment
shikashika Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Do not move in with someone unless you really want to. it will destroy you if you do it with grudges. Find your own place. She will have to deal with that. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 Live with an "ex"? NO WAY!!! Link to comment
RelaxByWater84 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 That's the last thing you should do, IMO. My friend did this with her ex and it went very bad. Now they don't even talk or they glare at each whenever they see one another in the hallway where they work, yeah they work together. Link to comment
princess_summer_blue84 Posted November 29, 2007 Share Posted November 29, 2007 I vote NO ! Get your own place . Then when you are ready ( Notice this please and make a note of it ) then move in together ! OK? Link to comment
Wandering_Sword Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 My vote is also with a "No." Link to comment
Nixee Posted November 30, 2007 Share Posted November 30, 2007 Don't do it, and if/when she asks, just tell her the short version of the truth: you aren't ready and don't think it would be a good idea right now. If you ever want to get back together, you are going to have to stay honest with her. Link to comment
Jess... Posted December 3, 2007 Share Posted December 3, 2007 I have to go with the others and vote no. Link to comment
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