she wont open up

[brandonbmbmudder]

okay ive been dating this girl for 3 months now. we are like a perfect match for each other. we have so much in common its not even funny. i know for a fact she still loves me and i love her more than anything in this world.. all of a sudden i get this weird feeling she doesnt like me.. she wont tell her feelings. she says in her little myspace questionaire bulletins that shes confused and wants to get things off her chest. i sent her a LONG message on myspace that asked her to open up to me and tell me how it feels because i want to be there for her and if its me then i will change.. theres no way i can change her thats just the kind of girl she is. i want her to know how much i love her but i cant even begin to describe it. am i moving too fast or is it okay to feel the way i feel after only 3 months.. i know theres the stages like the perfect stage and then the imperfect stage but i want to get through this imperfect stage where most relationships stop.

[carriebradshawny]

First off 3 months is not a long time to know a person. This is usually the mark in a relationship where it either moves forward or you stop it all together. I must say to fall that hard so fast is a little concerning. Don't you think? As for getting her to open up, well that just won't happen. Unless she wants it to. The more you push her to open up the more you push her away.

 

IMO I would say you have this relationship on ultra speed. Slow it down, what is the hurry.

[Poe]

Maybe she isn't inclined to allow herself to feel vulnerable after only 3 months. Stop doing relationship stuff over myspace. Do it on the phone or preferably face-to-face.

[RussaKong]

you have to lighten up on her a little, i know because i been there it has only been three months give it some time for her to know you better an so you can no her better, love is no joke it takes time to build those kida feeling

[musicguy]

I've dated a lot of girls who had a hard time opening up and let me tell you from experience that it takes a long time for a person to open up to someone else, especially if they haven't done it before. You cannot force someone to open up to you, they have to feel comfortable first. 3 months isn't a long time to know someone..if you push the issue about opening up she might get annoyed by that, keep on being yourself and when she's ready then she'll be more open with you

[15 Storeys High]

You're suffocating her. Relax and back off a bit.

[ghost69]

3 months isn't that long. i wouldn't offer to change if you don't feel right.