shell80 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Just a rant to noone in particular, but after my own relationships and after reading the many situations on this forum I've decided that it all shouldn't be so hard. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, and live happily ever after.... Why can't it be that naively simple in life? Is that too much to ask for? I'm sorry - but can't love be enough? Has our world become so complicated and full of so many distractions and options that it just isn't anymore? We are all too scared to ask each other out anymore for fear of rejection and we all just seem so confused about where each other stands. Sometimes I wish I could flick back to the 1950s where we all went to dances and the guys would ask the girls to check their dance cards, they'd dance, court for a while then fall in love at a drive in...simple as that. Anyway...it is late, I can't sleep and thereforeeee am pondering life and writing down my thoughts for one of you poor unsuspecting kiddies out there to read...
Broken_Doll_ParTs Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Hey!! Its like 12:30am here and I cant sleep either!! I know what you mean... I wish love was enough, but its not. I was in love with my ex but I had to break up with him because I know he wasnt going anywhere in life, and If I want to be with someone and have a life with them they have to be able to put in as much as I do (and Im a hard worker)... Life has become hard, things are complicated, there are so many diseases, illnesses, mental problems, life complications such as finanical issues, family issues etc...I guess people just have a hard time dealing with whats going in their life which reflects on their relationships.
shell80 Posted November 25, 2007 Author Posted November 25, 2007 12.32am....I take it you are in the land of Oz too Broken Doll?
Clabs Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Hey you! Sorry you cannot sleep. I have done this before - come on here when my sleep patterns were shot to pieces! I agree with you - it shouldn't be so hard. I don't know what it is - everyone wants everything to happen now - we want it NOW. And in a world where technology and transport make this possible - doesn't that somehow the objects we can have now? I think you are bound to have this outlook when you are in the aftermath of a relationship breakup. You were in a relationship - everything seemed rosy and then BAM. All that work gone to pot and now all that work to date again, to face rejection, to meet loonies, to meet your "one" only for them to think that you are a loon! But - it all boils down to giving it more time. And proper love will come and seek you out when you least expect it - when you aren't looking! Take care honey and hope you manage to nod off reading my waffle! Mark
Andy_2007 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 There is such a thing as the simple life... it's called BEING SINGLE.
glimmerofhope Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I'll just chime in and agree with others on this one. Life is indeed more complicated now than ever, but it is this culture of instant gratification that is, to me, most troubling. The "greener grasses" phenomenon has become pervasive, with relationships being one of the more obvious hosts to the disease.
cc2006 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I'll just chime in and agree with others on this one. Life is indeed more complicated now than ever, but it is this culture of instant gratification that is, to me, most troubling. The "greener grasses" phenomenon has become pervasive, with relationships being one of the more obvious hosts to the disease. Ah yes .. the "greener grasses" issue. Couple that with the fact that people seem to be more self-centered and selfish nowadays and it spells disaster for many relationships. Back "in the day" it used to be ... two people got together and became an "us" or "we" and that was that. Now? People get together and still just think in the "me me me". Do this for me. Why aren't you doing what I want? I'm going to do what I please even if it damages the relationship because I should come first. I'm hoping it just all comes back to compatibility. My previous relationships failed because we just weren't compatible. I'm easy going and want something that feels 'right' with someone that isn't a greener-grasses-selfish-self centered ball of 'me me me'. I'm with you though Shell ... the old stories sound so much nicer than it is lately ... maybe we just keep finding the wrong people.
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 There has to be a happy medium between the "me me me" thinking and the "I will do anything to keep this relationship alive even if it means sacrificing me" attitude. The me me me attitude is too much a part of our society and you see it not only in relationships with partners, but also in how people relate to each other in general...friendships, families, workplace, even strangers on the street. The me me me mentality is part of breakups as well, where the dumpee finds a rebound partner in order to escape the pain but doesn't bother thinking about the fact that he/she is callously using someone else for their personal satisfaction.
glimmerofhope Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 You know what I find fascinating, and at the same time annoying? How this board is chalk full of sensitive, intelligent people who see the problems with the way most people comport themselves these days. That means there really are a good many of us out there. Why, then, can we not seem to meet each other instead of these self-indulgent, ego-maniacal narcissisits who are so caught up in the "me first" lifestyle?
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 You know what I find fascinating, and at the same time annoying? How this board is chalk full of sensitive, intelligent people who see the problems with the way most people comport themselves these days. That means there really are a good many of us out there. Why, then, can we not seem to meet each other instead of these self-indulgent, ego-maniacal narcissisits who are so caught up in the "me first" lifestyle? Hah, that is a big mystery. LOL
itsallgrand Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 heh. Yeah, I think this is why my attraction lately has been in the direction of men who put great value on community and reaching out and all that good stuff. Probably a lot of us have been going for the wrong people. Lots of sensitive, bright, and wonderful people here. But guess a lot of us had to learn the hard way. Not to sicken you or anything, but I'm feeling downright positive about finding someone nice. Know it won't be easy like a 50's movie (don't care for that generation culture anyways lol) but that's cool with me. What I really want is someone who cares beyond themself. Problem has been; I've been real guilty of being self absorbed myself! Back to basics, eh?! Can't hurt. Can I offer anyone a malted?
renaissancewoman101 Posted November 25, 2007 Posted November 25, 2007 I wish relationships were simple, you met someone, if you clicked, you dated and became serious, and maybe even got married. Not all this crazy games where people try to fool others, or cheat, etc. What happened to life where people were happy with what they had, instead of wanting more, or trading for newer and better? Why are relationships so hard to find?
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