SUM1 PLEASE HELP...I NEED SUM ADVICE FAST

[DanJR]

Im a sophomore in high school and I have been friends with this girl, katie, since like 6th grade. We realized we liked eachother in 8th and we went out for 2 months. I broke up with her because at the time i thought i liked sum1 else, but then realized i was a jerk and still really liked katie, and maybe even loved her. We really didnt speak for a while...and i understood that she was pissed off at me, after all i was a jerk, and if i was her i probably wouldnt have spoken to me either. But thankfully we started speaking again as freshman and actually became better friends then we were be4 we went out in 8th grade...but she never admitted that she liked me. So since freshman year we have been very good friends and a few weeks ago i just found out she likes me again. The timing actually was great because i asked her to homecoming and i got her a rose and a corsage and we danced...it was a really great night. But, that night i asked her when we were alone if she wanted to go out with me....she said even though she really liked me, she didnt feel that she is ready for a relationship yet. I asked her if it had anything to do wit wut happened in our last relationship and she said no. So since homecoming...we have gotten much closer and a lil more intimate...like cuddling and stuff, weve been out to movies n we r def comfortable wit eachother. But like a week ago, i asked if she gave goin out any more thought and she said she had been thinkin bout it alot but doesnt kno why she isnt ready for a relationship, cause she reallly likes me and thinx im very sweet, her parents even like me. So rite now im at a loss cause i just cant keep waiting for her...its been like 2 years, does any1 have advice for me, i mean i feel like im in love with this girl and its killing me that we cant be more then JUST friends rite now...please gimme sum advice people...anythin will be greatly appreciated!!!

[S4il]

maybe she is scared of getting hurt again, considering she was liking you so much the first time, even thow she never came out and said it, it's sort of obvious she did. and now you found out she likes you again but doesn't want to be more than friends,. did i get that all.....

 

Ok now to your question, you asked how to get her back in a sense and how that i think is going to occur is you having patience, and remains a good friends towards her, even is she only wants that for now, your chances of getting more seem promising, you have to lay low on the subject of getting back together, and than she might ask you about it. if you play like nothing has happened it will rent space in her mind, and might cause he to ask you weather or not you still want to date, in-part getting your chance to express what you have been wanting to say.

 

so it's sort of like reverse physiology..in a nut shell

 

whatever you do Don't THROW your self out and seem desperate.

[New Found Glory]

i dont understand the problem, if u guys are very comfortable, you do things together, you care for each other, you "cuddle and stuff". Whats the problem? What are u looking for? You have all the true benefits of a relationship without some of the hassles. No anniversary to remember, no jelousy, no paranoia... Sounds like you have a sweet deal. My advice is to just be happy with the joy you have, who cares about the boyfriend'girlfriend titles. The only thing you could possibly be missing out on if physical affection. Now, u said she cuddles and stuff, so all you are really missing is kissing(unless that is the stuff) and sex. Tell her you are(or should be) very happy with the way things are, but you would like to take it to the next level whenever she is ready. Cuz trust me, if you go into too fast, you wont get what you are missing, you'll just start to lose what you already have.