Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 "Screw me Gently with a chain saw".....!>!>!>!>!??!?!?!>ok this is painful but probably not as painful as the fact that she dated someone after me for a short time lasted a week I was talking to one of my good friend who was a friend of my ex. She told me that my ex did date after me for a week. WOW.. it just made my day. feel like I wanna hang myself. this sucks.. and it bothers the crap out of me. So I guess she is not where I am .. is she? we broke up May 13th.... this is so hard Link to comment
Jayar Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Massari, let me understand... You broke up over 6 months ago, and you are now upset because she dated someone in that time? That's normal. That's what being broken up is about. Link to comment
deleted_x Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Try to take it easy on yourself. Either she's moved on, or dating others is her way of coping. Breakups are hard no matter what - for one side and sometimes both sides. There are SOOO many ways that people deal with that. Sometimes people will just start dating or having sex buddies as a form of coping, telling themselves that they've gotten over the breakup, when they really haven't. But one thing is for sure, now that you two have broken up, you probably shouldn't snoop into her life at all - it will only bring heartache, as you've noticed. I hope all the best for you man! Why don't you try dating around, or even just being a bit flirtatious? It may help you take your mind off of her! Good luck Link to comment
Hope75 Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Hey Massari, Sorry you are hurting friend. Part of breaking up means moving on, and some people jump into dating sooner than is probably good for them to try and ease the pain of the breakup. It's probably not the best idea to jump into dating, but it's your ex's choice. My best advice? Focus on your healing so you can move on. Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 Massari, let me understand... You broke up over 6 months ago, and you are now upset because she dated someone in that time? That's normal. That's what being broken up is about. yes:S .. I never knew she dated someone in that period . I was always terrified of this . and now it happened. She was the one who decided she is too good for me and broke up. And then I was doing ok after that ,, she just appeared in my life suddenly an started contacting me, its funnt she specifically said she doesn't want to talk to me . and then when I am in the best shape she calls and messed it all up. this happened in august. and now its november and I found out she actually dated this guy for a week but it didn't work out. Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 Hey Massari, Sorry you are hurting friend. Part of breaking up means moving on, and some people jump into dating sooner than is probably good for them to try and ease the pain of the breakup. It's probably not the best idea to jump into dating, but it's your ex's choice. My best advice? Focus on your healing so you can move on. Thank you hope.. it has been a while since i heard from you I was in Germany in summer.. met someone there.. and i was doing great .. then when I am there BOOOM she started contacting me asking me when I am coming back and she misses me.. and all.. so being the idiot that I am I fell for her thinking she might actually want me back. but no she just wants friends( I didn't ask her .. it could tell from how she acted around me) Recently I started to think about her again.. so I talked to my friend and asked if she dated anyone in that period.. what I hate is that I moved on but then i just came back again(how is that possible) Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 Try to take it easy on yourself. Either she's moved on, or dating others is her way of coping. Breakups are hard no matter what - for one side and sometimes both sides. There are SOOO many ways that people deal with that. Sometimes people will just start dating or having sex buddies as a form of coping, telling themselves that they've gotten over the breakup, when they really haven't. But one thing is for sure, now that you two have broken up, you probably shouldn't snoop into her life at all - it will only bring heartache, as you've noticed. I hope all the best for you man! Why don't you try dating around, or even just being a bit flirtatious? It may help you take your mind off of her! Good luck its just so hard imagining other guy kissing her I am not sure if they have slept together or not but thinking about it that would be horrible. I dunno what to do.. past 3 days I have been just sitting at home depressed.. and smoking. kinda like how i was when she broke up with me., Link to comment
Krystal_Ivy Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I know how you feel. my ex got MARRIED like 3 months after we broke up!! Link to comment
findingmeandyou Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I know how you feel. my ex got MARRIED like 3 months after we broke up!! Let me tell you guys something. It says ALOT about someone if they run out and get someone real quick after a break up. What it should tell YOU is that they are probably not someone who is relationship material for you. I had an ex who dumped me, and started contacting guys like a week after she left me. We're talking we were engaged and living together. She just left one day and then started that. It made me feel like I was just crap and not good enough for her. Well, guess what? She went through another guy. Within a few WEEKS, said she loved him. Then, they broke up. She met another guy. They got engaged, and THEN she started contacting me again. I told her to screw off and focus on her "fiance". Poor guy had no idea about what he was getting into. Link to comment
Mysterygirl Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 It is never healthy to jump into another relationship directly after one ends. Usually when someone does this, they do it to try to help cope with the breakup .. to get their mind off of it. The fact that the "new relationship" only lasted a week is not surprising. I am sure the other guy got sick of being compared to you She doesnt sound very stable, thereforeeee you should be happy to be out of of her life. If I were you I wouldn't sweat it, this girl is a thing of your past.. and your going forward. Never go backwards in Life Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 thank you so so much"everyone" your replies made me feel a lot better. A Lot better. I know she is not stable. when we were going out she had issues. Depression and stuff. and I was as supportive as i could.. I was jealous a little since she was very attractive as a result she had a lot of guy friends and that was the reason she broke up with me. The think that is eating me slowly from inside is the thought that she might have kissed this guy.. or even slept with him..I don't know that .. but its so hard Link to comment
Mysterygirl Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 she probably did sleep with him. and she migh have slept with other people since then ... Who cares. It's her body. Obviously when she slept with him she didn't love him ... Link to comment
surfjon Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 That's what we all have to do, what you'll do too..... move on! Link to comment
annie24 Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 you seem like a really sweet guy who falls for the wrong women, despite some warning signs. I think you deserve the best, so don't settle, ok? That said, it was a long time ago, and you two were broken up. I know that I've signed up for a dating site just hours after a breakup, to try to move on. In hindsight, I was NO WHERE near ready to start dating again, but I did it to try to feel better. Anyways, forget about her, and put her out of your mind. Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 That's what we all have to do, what you'll do too..... move on! believe meeee I trieddd.!! we only went out for a month an a half. I mean before her I had a gf went out with that one for 8 months and she cheated on me.. I broke up with her.. it didn't take me long to move on then I met my ex. I got attached to her. soon she was my everything and then booomm out of no where she ended it. Unexpectedly. Link to comment
Massari Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 you seem like a really sweet guy who falls for the wrong women, despite some warning signs. I think you deserve the best, so don't settle, ok? That said, it was a long time ago, and you two were broken up. I know that I've signed up for a dating site just hours after a breakup, to try to move on. In hindsight, I was NO WHERE near ready to start dating again, but I did it to try to feel better. Anyways, forget about her, and put her out of your mind. Thank you annie. I tried that also. I did date this wonderful woman while I was in my vacation in Germany she was perfect (Gorgeous .. sweet .. carrying down to earth, alot more like me then my ex.).We kissed once but decided this won't work since I am going back to Canada and she is in Germany(she was German). So you could say I did the same thing probably earlier then she did. But I had no choice. I could ask my ex to come back to me but she would have said no. Said no 10 times during the week of our breakup so I figured nothing is changed. But she did have a choice. If she had asked me to get back together I would have agreed. Link to comment
Gratsy Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I know how you feel. my ex got MARRIED like 3 months after we broke up!! Yes, sometimes people heal faster than others. Sometimes those people weren't really there during the relationship and you were too blind to it. Sometimes they're just jackasses. Sometimes they date people right when they're done dating you to GET OVER you. You never know but what has always helped me is the thought that : hey, if that girl is willing to put up with his complete bull****, then good for her but not me. Actually, it might hurt more now, but this pain actually helps sometimes in getting over someone. Someone worth loving wouldnt' do this to you. Link to comment
annie24 Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Hey - whenever you start to feel nostalgic and miss your ex, do something else. clean your room, call a friend (not to talk about your ex), watch a movie, hit the gym, etc..... No use pining over an ex that is long gone. Link to comment
Wandering_Sword Posted November 25, 2007 Share Posted November 25, 2007 What you are feeling happens. Even months afterwards, you just have to be patient and ride it out. As long as you have no contact with her then it would be easier to let time do its thing (assuming that you want these feelings out of the way and do not desire to be with your EX any longer). Take care, things DO get better. Link to comment
Massari Posted November 25, 2007 Author Share Posted November 25, 2007 Take care, things DO get better. I am really hoping this would happen eventually cause I had enough of this.. Last night a few of my friends were invited to my house. I was upset for this whole drama. so I ended up getting too drunk... parents took me to the hospital thought it wasn't necessary. I was passed out most of the time. So I don't remember who I got to the hospital.. I this this was really unnecessary Link to comment
Massari Posted November 25, 2007 Author Share Posted November 25, 2007 Hey - whenever you start to feel nostalgic and miss your ex, do something else. clean your room, call a friend (not to talk about your ex), watch a movie, hit the gym, etc..... No use pining over an ex that is long gone. yes thats what I will try to do.. We just bought a Treadmill so I will start running on it and lose some weight. just be healthy. and take my mind off it Link to comment
Massari Posted November 27, 2007 Author Share Posted November 27, 2007 update: Is it weird that I feel like this ? after that night of hell of throwing up and puking I feel find today. And I feel like I actually got closure. I felt so good about myself. I have her in my facebook but I am not temped to check her. I can even imagining if a guy message her something like this (hypothetically!!) "hey babe.. you are amazing in bed and miss your body" lol I dunno something like that and I know i wouldn't care. I saw my worst fear. Her dating another guy and maybe thats what i needed to finally get closure. Link to comment
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