garbage44 Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 ok, there's this women i met in one of my classes a month and a half ago. at first, she was all into me and it was easy to talk to her. Later on, she kind of went away and started tuning me out, but then i asked her if we can hang out sometime and she said that would be nice.I asked for her number and she wrote it in my assignment notebook. it seemed like she was into me again. I called her on wednesday and asked her if we can hang out on friday. She said " Yea, call me and we can meet up somewhere". So, on friday i called her again and she picked up. I asked her if "you still wanna do somthing today". She said "Yea, what do u wanna do". I told her just hang out at the mall. She said "yea, im gonna go tanning, then im gonna talk to my boss about tomorrow, then ill call you back"....and she never did, Is she just not interested in me or somthing....is she letting me down easy....i dont get it Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Maybe she forgot to call you back or just got caught up in her day. Just play it cool when you see her again. Don't let her know you were disappointed. Link to comment
Entropy Smith Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 Maybe she didn't like the "just hang out in the mall" line. I'd give her some space, like a week, and then try again with something not over the top but better than hanging out in the mall. She could probably do that with her friends...although she could've just forgot. No big deal. Link to comment
garbage44 Posted November 24, 2007 Author Share Posted November 24, 2007 Maybe she didn't like the "just hang out in the mall" line. I'd give her some space, like a week, and then try again with something not over the top but better than hanging out in the mall. She could probably do that with her friends...although she could've just forgot. No big deal. What should i say next time i call her......i still have a chance with her ryte....its not that bad...or is it Link to comment
Entropy Smith Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I think your pressing and she can sense that. Call her and ask her about an assignment or school, ask her how she is, then get off the phone FIRST. Tune her out in person. Then be into her. Then back off. Your going to need to build some momentum with htis one. Its like knocking over a soda machine. You got to rock it back and forth for alittle while before you tip it over. Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 I would hold off a while and see if she calls you later. I would not call her again. Wait and see her in class and see how she acts then. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 A girl with a High Interest Level in you does not forget your plans. She is not interested. Move on. Link to comment
garbage44 Posted November 26, 2007 Author Share Posted November 26, 2007 thnx for the advice, ive never went for a girl before...does it always feel tht bad when theyre not interested Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted November 26, 2007 Share Posted November 26, 2007 thnx for the advice, ive never went for a girl before...does it always feel tht bad when theyre not interested No, it doesn't always feel that bad, not if you do it right. Keys to Minimizing A Rejections Pain: NEVER move in close to her under the guise of "Just Friends" when you're interested. ALWAYS ask a girl out or for her phone number within the first few meetings. If a girl is taken, don't move in as friends, keep your distance as an aquaintence until she is available. ALWAYS keep your options open to Many Women when single... NEVER focus on just One Woman when you're single. NEVER EVER Confess your feelings or tell a girl how you feel unless; A) You're already in a secure relationship with her; B) you KNOW she is head over heels for you too. ALWAYS move on if her actions aren't progressing the relationship. If you find yourself making all of the effort... MOVE ON! She's not interested and continued effort is basically making you like an uninterested girl even more. Link to comment
boo121 Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 If you ever get into 1 of these situations, where she flakes out or doesnt call back... perfect opportunity to tease her about it. You could tell her "Cancel your plans... im more fun than what you're up to!" If she was interested in you, she would make you a priority, not her boss, or her tanning sessions...Don't worry about it, if she doesn't call back anyway. The worst thing you can do is call her and drive her away. The next best thing is to move on. The best way is to tease her and move on... Just remember she is missing out on having a great time with you. Link to comment
boo121 Posted November 27, 2007 Share Posted November 27, 2007 I think your pressing and she can sense that. Call her and ask her about an assignment or school, ask her how she is, then get off the phone FIRST. Tune her out in person. Then be into her. Then back off. Your going to need to build some momentum with htis one. Its like knocking over a soda machine. You got to rock it back and forth for alittle while before you tip it over. I like that analogy. However i wouldnt tune into her, then ignore her. It's playing games and manipulative. BUT anticipation is a good tool to use. 2 steps forward, 1 step back. This sort of thing is good when people get intimate. Link to comment
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.