What to do?

[allizonme]

I'm at a loss! and I hope you guys can help me out, Please!

 

Back story, I've been friends with this guy for a few years now and we have always had a close friendship. He moved away 2 years ago but for some reason when he moved away we just got closer as friends and one thing led to another and we kinda pushed the relationship alittle farther by doing things that just "friends" don't do, although we have never gotten as far as intercourse just pretty much heavy making out and playing with clothes on.

 

Anyway.. Moving on.. Maybe I should also add, we have dated in the past, maybe 3 years ago and the feelings we had for each other never completely went away we just drifted apart (I was only 15 at the time and had alot of growing up to do) we remained in close contact the entire time in between and we have always said how we missed each other and wished we never would have broken up and so on.

 

Here comes the dilema, we were talking a few days ago and he expressed to me how he truly misses being with me and how frustrating it is because he can never really be "with" me because he wants to so badly. He has even said he won't date other girls because he knows it will hurt me as well as he would be hurt if I started dating someone else.

 

So i'm stuck, what does he want? What should I do? I'm at a loss! I care about this kid so much and its obvious he cares about me but why can't we just be together?

 

What do you guys think? What should I do? What should I say? HELP!

 

TIA!

[CandyKins]

That's good you haven't done "intercourse", otherwise you will ruin the friendship. Sooner or later it would.. highly like.

 

What does your heart tell you? Do you have feelings for him strongly? Do you want to be together? Do you want to give in a second chance and not take it for granter.. take it seriously? If your head is stopping you then don't allow it, let your heart...

 

What have you to lose? He seems like he wants to give it another shot. Talk to him. Have a heart to heart talk. Ask how he truly feels for you, ask if he loves you. Ask all sorts of questions.

[someguy88]

I think what he's really saying is that he wants you to have the same feelings for him and if you do, he needs to hear it.

[allizonme]

I care about him so much its unreal..

 

He knows I have the same feelings in return.. I have told him so many times, so it's not that. I've never been too good at this relationship thing and letting my feelings be known.

 

We live nearly 3 hours away from each other and between him working 5, sometimes 6 days a week and me going to school 5 days a week on top of me having a child from a previous relationship it doesn't give us much time together and I think thats where most of the problems stopping us comes into play.

 

I just don't know what to say to push things forward if they're going to happen or just let them go...