is this true

[anniecarter003]

"either a guy likes you or not. theres nothing you can do about it"

 

but is this true for shyer guys who do have a whole lot of confidence or lack past dating experience?

 

I know its not right to wait around for someone to start liking you, Im not saying someone who likes a shyer guy should do that. Just a general question.

[toshiba]

This isn't the answer you want but.....

 

Why wait around for someone to start liking you? Be your own person...do your own thing. Some people will like you and you can decide whether you like them back or not.

 

Besides, if someone likes you do you really want to have to coax him into showing it? If you don't mind doing that, then don't get upset at your 10 year anniversary when he doesn't even remember it.

[Jayar]

I think that even the SHYEST guy, given the appropriate "receptive signals" will fumble out a date invitation if he's so inclined. If he can't do that, even AFTER having time to develop a friendship and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're receptive to him if he wanted to ask you out... Then he's probably going to frustrate you down the road anyway.

[Batya33]

I agree with Jayar. Also it's not a black and white issue. A guy can like you but not be interested in /not be available to date you, a guy can change his mind about you, develop feelings either way, etc.

[matts0344]

I'm very very shy, but if a girl could make it clear she was interested then I would not have a problem asking her out. In a sense she made a "first move" by indicating interest. (I never indicate my interest first because I just have such low confidence right now)

 

If a guy doesn't make a move after you've shown clear interest then he is either not interested, isn't available, or his self esteem and confidence is so low that he can not ask you out. So unless you want to ask him out you should probably just forget him.

[Tealc]

I think that even the SHYEST guy, given the appropriate "receptive signals" will fumble out a date invitation if he's so inclined.

 

#-o

 

I never cease to be amazed by this blanket statement.

[Weeblie]

I don't see why it wouldn't be true. If a shy guy doesn't like you, he doesn't like you. If he likes you, he likes you. Shyness doesn't make a person incapable of feeling. Now if you're asking about the possibility of him asking you out...that's a different story.

[cpc28655]

It is amazing how many people confuse shyness and gynophobia.

 

Given enough time and encouragment, a shy man will eventually come out of his shell and will express his feelings one way or the other.

 

If he is continuing to withdraw more and more, then he is probably gynophobic. Professional help whould be his only chance.

[Blue Dreamer]

Regardless, who truly cares, except you?? I agree with toshiba, be your own peep.

 

If you are interested in what "you" perceive as a "shy guy", why not hit him up???? What do you have to lose? Shy guys lack confidence. That is exactly why they are shy.

[Poe]

For me it is true. If I am not attracted to a girl, there is pretty much nothing she can do to convince my feelings or attraction otherwise.

[stranded247]

Feelings are pretty hard things to change, ever had a guy like you and you wanted to like him but you just couldn't like him back? even though he was really nice, kind, intelligent etc. Well I think its vice versa for guys, shyness doesn't alter this. Over time I think you can grow to love someone when you didn't love them previously but initially if attraction isn't there at first it rarely develops later (although sometimes it can).