HellFrost666 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 I know it sounds mean... I have known this guy for years. He started seeing this girl a few months ago. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to be around him anymore because she has such a tight leash on him that he can't go anywhere without her. And when she's around she always has to be hanging all over him and slurping on him. It's disgusting, get a room! And aside from that, she is really loud. She has this whiny nazel voice, and she never shuts up. And she always has to be the center of attention. Like, we will all be sitting around talking, and she will cut everyone off and be like "Oh! Listen to this guys!" And then she will either belch really loud, or fart really loud. And she has no concept of personal space or respect for anyone's stuff. Last time he brought her over here to my place she got on my computer without even asking and went through all the pictures and stuff, and then she picked up a notebook of my girlfriends and just started reading it, outloud. Last time I was over there we sent my girlfriend on a beer run, and his girlfriend wanted to go too (fine, get her the hell away from me for ten minutes.) Well before they could leave this chick insists on spending an hour getting all dolled up. She said it was because she gets free stuff everywhere she goes because she is just so hot. (And she isn't, that's the sad part...) So we've been invited over there tonight. I don't even want to go. I am not sure what to do here. I don't want to lose a valued friend because he's dating an annoying wench, but at this point it looks like that might happen. So, offer me some wisdom, anyone. Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 Do you think there is any chance your friend will get sick of her? One would be tempted to try and introduce him to a nicer chick... I don't know about the ethics of that though. Jeffr Link to comment
redrose85 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 hahaha I'm sorry but this just makes me laugh. That chick sounds like a real winner. What on earth is your friend doing with her???! Link to comment
Entropy Smith Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 All obnoxious acts are a cry for help. If you simply ingnore her and shut her out and don't react like its getting to you she will implode. Easier said then done, but poise is only for the strong. Link to comment
Aurian Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 Can you ask for guys-only time maybe? Link to comment
Jeffrey2095 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 Maybe you could suggest activities she hates. Link to comment
DN Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 He's your friend. Sometimes you have to do stuff for friends you would not do for anyone else. Link to comment
Jayar Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 She's insecure... my guess is if you told her she irritates the crap out of you, she would stop. Or never be around you again. Next time she does something rude or obnoxious, call her on it. Hopefully your friend will be understanding, even APPRECIATIVE that he didn't have to do it! Link to comment
someguy88 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 I agree with DN. You really have no other option but to suck it up. I've been in this position before. My best friend seems to pick the weirdest women for partners. Normally, I get a long with everyone but this one girl he was with drove me up the wall in ways similar to your friends gf. I made the mistake of telling my friend that I thought his gf was a real b*tch...let's just say it didn't go over well and I won't make the same mistake again. I believe that if you try hard enough, you can find something to like about anyone. Try to relax and avoid letting your buddies gf push your buttons. Link to comment
leo_s84 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 "Oh! Listen to this guys!" And then she will either belch really loud, or fart really loud. What the hell is wrong with her!, how old is she 10? Link to comment
flower99 Posted November 23, 2007 Share Posted November 23, 2007 He's your friend. Sometimes you have to do stuff for friends you would not do for anyone else. I agree..accept most the stuff, consider it excersing your patience & tolerence...lol. And pray your friend smartens up & drops her soon. However my Exception is when it comes to going on YOUR computer & looking at your personal stuff & reading it outloud. What is wrong with her?? that is rude & out of line. No one - not even friends gf -is allowed to do that. she have a little respect...wow. Call her on that like Jayar said. And your friend should know that & accept that. You have to draw the line when it comes to your personal life & property. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted November 24, 2007 Share Posted November 24, 2007 How does she feel about you? Does she sense your dislike of her? I ask only to get a sense of the dynamic. Have you ever sat down with her and had an actual conversation? I know that when I find myself actively disliking someone, I sometimes find something out about that person that makes me feel more compassionate. Does your friend ever state what he likes about her? She must fulfill some need in him, and that's not likely to change whether you express your feelings about her or not. I would recommend ignoring her bad traits and spending time with your friend without her. If he starts to notice that you don't want to be with them as a couple, and addresses it, then maybe you have an open door to confess how you feel. Just be prepared for the consequences. People don't usually react well to hearing negative things about an S.O. Link to comment
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