I think my ex is telling people we are back together when we really aren't

[Iwantittoend]

My ex and I have been getting a lot closer over the past month or so. We call each other multiple times a day and talk more than we ever did when we were in a relationship. We meet up and cuddle with each other but don't do any kissing (other than her kissing me on the cheek). My parents both think we're back together, but I assure them we're not. It's just a really close friendship.

 

Anyways, I called over her house today because I was heading over for Thanksgiving. Her sister answered and yelled in the background: "Your BOYFRIEND is on the phone!" My ex didn't even say anything about the boyfriend comment. This happened a couple days earlier too but I didn't really think much of it.

 

So I went over there and her parents and grandparents were there. As soon as I got there, she sat on my lap and was holding my hand and ****. Then her grandma started talking about how glad she was that we were talking again. When I was leaving, she hugged me multiple times and kissed me on the cheek before I left.

 

It all just seemed too weird of a coincidence that all this happened without any of her family contending to it. They wouldn't allow this if I was just a friend I'm sure...or they'd at least make a comment. But nothing.

 

So, is it possible my ex is telling people we're boyfriend/girlfriend again? Has anything like this ever happened to any of you?

[Hope75]

Do you want her back?

 

I would just talk to her about it- tell her that her actions are confusing you because she is acting like you are boyfriend and girlfriend, and if she is not interested in trying again she can't behave like that, because it only gives you the wrong idea and hurts you.

[southerngirl]

Do you want to get back together with your now ex girlfriend?

 

Spending alot of time with her? Cuddling with her? Spending thanksgiving with her family is a very sentimental thing to do.

 

How do you feel? Perhaps your family keep asking you because you act as if you are in fact together, yet are not officially saying that you are.

 

If you really do care about this girl, why hold up what could be great? Is there background info that makes it so that being with her would be a bad thing? If there is, why are you messing with her at all?

[Iwantittoend]

Do you want to get back together with your now ex girlfriend?

 

Spending alot of time with her? Cuddling with her? Spending thanksgiving with her family is a very sentimental thing to do.

 

How do you feel? Perhaps your family keep asking you because you act as if you are in fact together, yet are not officially saying that you are.

 

If you really do care about this girl, why hold up what could be great? Is there background info that makes it so that being with her would be a bad thing? If there is, why are you messing with her at all?

 

I do want to get back with her in the future at some point. It's just a very complicated situation. She is going off into the army in about a month or so, and she knows that it would be too hard to keep a relationship up while she's gone. I think that is the main hold up in it.

 

No other girl has ever made me feel like this. I care about her so much. She just makes me feel so good about myself when we're hanging out. But there comes a point when I'd like to know what our future holds. I have no clue at this point.

[Hope75]

I do want to get back with her in the future at some point. It's just a very complicated situation. She is going off into the army in about a month or so, and she knows that it would be too hard to keep a relationship up while she's gone. I think that is the main hold up in it.

 

No other girl has ever made me feel like this. I care about her so much. She just makes me feel so good about myself when we're hanging out. But there comes a point when I'd like to know what our future holds. I have no clue at this point.

 

I think you just need to be straight with her. Tell her that exes don't behave the way she is with you, that you are more than interested in trying to work things out, but if she is not interested, she needs to stop behaving this way, as it only hurts and confuses you.

[Iwantittoend]

I think you just need to be straight with her. Tell her that exes don't behave the way she is with you, that you are more than interested in trying to work things out, but if she is not interested, she needs to stop behaving this way, as it only hurts and confuses you.

 

It sucks because I love cuddling and doing these things with her. But then when I leave, it just all starts to sink in and I overthink it too much. I know I have to confront her about it, but I don't want it to end in a way.

 

She is interested in me, there's no doubt about it. But I don't think she wants a commitment at the moment. That's the problem.

[Hope75]

It sucks because I love cuddling and doing these things with her. But then when I leave, it just all starts to sink in and I overthink it too much. I know I have to confront her about it, but I don't want it to end in a way.

 

She is interested in me, there's no doubt about it. But I don't think she wants a commitment at the moment. That's the problem.

 

Do you want her to keep stringing you along and get all the benefits of a committed relationship without any of the real effort it takes?

 

And what of when she dates someone else and still does this with you?

 

Aren't you worth committing to?

 

If what you want from her is a committed relationship, settling for scraps of that will only make you feel sad, disrespected, unappreciated and undervalued.

 

You deserve a relationship if you want that, and if she isn't willing to give that to you, she should not enjoy the privilage of using you on her terms and dropping you when she feels like it.

[Iwantittoend]

Do you want her to keep stringing you along and get all the benefits of a committed relationship without any of the real effort it takes?

 

And what of when she dates someone else and still does this with you?

 

Aren't you worth committing to?

 

If what you want from her is a committed relationship, settling for scraps of that will only make you feel sad, disrespected, unappreciated and undervalued.

 

You deserve a relationship if you want that, and if she isn't willing to give that to you, she should not enjoy the privilage of using you on her terms and dropping you when she feels like it.

 

Like I said before, I think she is acting this way because she knows it wouldn't work out once she goes into the army in a month. Otherwise, I think she would've asked for me to get back together.

 

But I do know what you mean, and I probably should just bring it up to her and see what she says.