Gripper Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Okay this may seem like nothing but this kind of stuff bothers me a bit so bare with me. There is this girl who serves me in the supermarket now and again. Last week when she served me she seemed very friendly and in fact gave me lots of eye contact. Smiled all that stuff. Because I am trying to train myself not too avoid eye contact and to appear confident I return it. Although this girl is quite attractive, I don't fancy her or anything. This week she is again at the counter and to me seems relutant to serve me and in fact seems to want the bloke to do it who also wasn't serving anyone . Sort of hesitating to serve me kind of stuff. In the end she does and is quite pleasant although not as overly friendly as before. It may seem minor but I do worry about being a creep although no one has ever accused me of it. I wasn't looking at her t1ts or anything. I just wonder whether I seem overly nervous and she interprets that as me being a weirdo when in fact it is simply that, nerves and when I interact with people other than this way I am fine. Iam fine with girls who I know like my mates sister but I do get anxious. Link to comment
jengh Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Is it possible that she didn't find you creepy, but instead thought you kind of turned her down by not talking with her, etc? She could've felt embarrassed... I don't think you were being a creeper at all... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 did you stare her down and win? i think there is a 3 second rule for staring. like 2 seconds is enough to send a clear signal. then if you catch eyes again, even better. who knows. maybe she is having a bad day. she is in service. Link to comment
Clarity Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Sounds like you're overanalyzing the situation, you didn't even exchange words. Link to comment
hello-I-am-me Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 how long did you stare exactly, theres a big difference between eye-contact and staring-contest. Or yeah, maybe it was just a bad day. Link to comment
Dating Coach Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Yeah, you don't want to look away right away, but neither do you want to have a staring contest. That would be weird. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 so if she just finished up making you a sandwhich and you always request no mustard....you go to sit down and stare her down, she probably thinkin 'dam, maybe i put mustard on it.' and she looks back and you still eyeballin. i'd be a bit freaked out too. Link to comment
Raiden Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 Someone feel free to put me in my place here, but IMO staring only works if you're an impeccably well-groomed, James Bond-esque businessman type. And then, he would only get away with it in bars and so on. Otherwise it will just have "slightly weird, possibly unnerving" written all over it. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted November 21, 2007 Share Posted November 21, 2007 even james bond looked away after the 'hey, sup' glance. plus, those are movies. Link to comment
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