falling appart

[shine3kiss]

ok..here's the story. I've been engaged for the past 3 yrs and everything was going well till the last couple of months. He moved to a different state for school. while i was out with my girlfriends, I met this guy at a bar. He's very cute and charming. the very next day he came by my work to say hello and possibly get my number, but i didn't give him any of my info. couple of days has passed and i got his number from a friend. since then we've been talking. he invited me to his house for dinner and he made me a great meal. after a couple of drinks we started to makeout and we hooked up. we've been hanging out lately and i really am confused. I'm loosing feelings for my fiance. and falling for this new guys. what should i do??

[MaNg0s]

Well for some reason reading your post I got angry because I was once in a long distance relationship and I would hate to think that she ever cheated on me that easily. It is quite simple really if you love your finance you will stop contacting this new guy before it gets too serious but if you want to throw a way a 3 year relationship for a cute guy then go ahead keep going.

[shine3kiss]

its not like i cheated on him because i thought the other guy was cute!!

just that the new guy has more or better qualities than the one i'm with. and i really didnt know where my 3 yr engagement was going.

[Zeitgeist]

its not like i cheated on him because i thought the other guy was cute!!

just that the new guy has more or better qualities than the one i'm with. and i really didnt know where my 3 yr engagement was going.

Remember this quote by Joe Ancis, "The only normal people are the ones you don't know very well."

 

Since you have JUST met this new guy, you can't accurately measure his qualities against your fiance. This new guy is NOT perfect and the longer you know him, the more flaws you will discover. What happens if you go with this guy and a year from now, you discover that your fiance was SO much better than this guy? That will be a regret that you will never live down. I think you have taken WAY too much for granted, the value of trust. As in the trust that your fiance had in you that he could move out of state and not worry about you cheating on him.

 

If you insist that this guy is better, then break it off with your fiance. Some lessons just can't be learned until one experiences it for themselves.

[HeartAcheInOC]

Be careful.......what you have done will change things forever with your fiance. I went through a similar situation and never fully regained the trust of my boyfriend. Trust is very hard to earn back. Right now your thoughts are clouded by this new guy. Take a step back from both (know that's hard!) but it's the only way to figure out what you're real feelings are.

[Girl79]

You don't know this new guy. Seriously, I've been in the situation of being swept off my feet by a new guy while in a long term relationship with someone and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. I actually broke up with my bf to date this new guy, only to find out he was not at all what he came accross as, and yes my bf was soooo much better in so many ways. Although this new guy did make me realize I was with a jerk, and I am glad I did make the move to break up with my bf. It's just not a good idea to break up with someone for someone else. Break up because the relationship isn't working. And yeah, things are forever changed with your fiance now.