Staying for the kids

[onmyownagain]

Hi Everyone, not been on here for a long time. My wife and I split a couple of years ago because she wasn't happy but after about three months we got back together.

 

We have had our ups and downs but had a huge row on Saturday with her ending by saying I am very controlling (I probably am) and she has had enough.

 

We haven't split because she doesn't want to break up the family (we have an 11 year old daughter) and is staying mainly for that reason.

 

She says she does love me but finds it hard sometimes because I like everything my way.

 

I guess she is right about the controlling thing but can I change if I want to? The current position is leaving me in so much pain because althougn we are in the same house, I feel like I am only there for my daughter and not for me.

 

It has been a couple of days now. She says she is sorry ahe hurt me but had to get if off her chest. But the pain is horrible and I am not sure if people get over this sort of thing or end up splitting anyway.

 

Help please.

[Supa_gurl]

Make the change in yourself, so that you two can be happy. It seems that the only thing that is keeping her unhappy is your controlling nature. My husband can be the same way, but he is trying to change because we are going through a similar situation. I hope it works out.

[ftheunion]

You need counseling and philosophy.

[iFlirt]

You cant make staying for the kids the reason you two stay together. Kids arent stupid, they see their parents fight, they see their moms cry... So staying together for them... I makes no sense

But if your not yet at that point, councelling. You both should sit down and talk it through and decide how far each of you is willing to go, and how much you are willing to change

[onmyownagain]

You cant make staying for the kids the reason you two stay together. Kids arent stupid, they see their parents fight, they see their moms cry... So staying together for them... I makes no sense

But if your not yet at that point, councelling. You both should sit down and talk it through and decide how far each of you is willing to go, and how much you are willing to change

 

Don't know if people can really change. I want to but I am a manager and seem to bring that home with me. People at work are a bit scared of me I think although I am not a big guy or anything.

[onmyownagain]

Split today. Damn shame.