backagain Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 ahhh what is the meaning of this NC???? i should know that answer...but im not feeling it!!! i havn't seen/speak/talk/chat/IM the ex ever since i walked out her door 12 days ago...i know i know its only been 2 weeks but AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH im really having a hard time sticking to it... i keep battling between "its over its over why would u wanna be with a chick that doesn't wanna be with you?" and "but if i do NC all the way shes gonna think i dont care!!! i should try LC....no wait NC...no wait LC..." i am going crazy!!! i thought i was doing better...been keeping a journal here....but right now i just...really really really want to talk to her....even just to say hi.....i really want to kno what shes up to...i havn't even ASK any one about her......i've been holding myself back.....but then again doesn't seem like she has asked anything about me either....so why should i bother?? but i want to know!! u guys see?? im torn!!! need some encouragement and a little reminder of the concequences of contacting an ex!! Link to comment
ftheunion Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 My LC turned into me bothering her every chance I could, and having bodily anxiety from not being near her on campus. I've been NC for 3 years and am pretty much over it. My one and only so it will never leave, but I can handle myself and not dream of her constantly. Link to comment
Up and Down Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 i keep battling between "its over its over why would u wanna be with a chick that doesn't wanna be with you?" and "but if i do NC all the way shes gonna think i dont care!!! i should try LC....no wait NC...no wait LC..." If you are struggling this much you are not ready for LC, stay in NC for at least a month, then evaluate your mental state, maybe post here. You will not be yourself in talking to her, if you do call her and she doesn't call you back right away, you will go crazy wondering what she is doing, who is she doing it with, why hasn't she called me. You will go nuts and beat yourself to death with all of these questions. Stay in NC, its a tough road at first but it gets easier, slowly but surely. Link to comment
Blazer Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Hello backagain, I know how you are feeling, I am sure a lot of us do. I think that Up and Down gave you some good advice ... from my personal experience I can tell you that ANY kind of interaction between you and your ex can be really difficult at this point. It can be so hard to be yourself and its easy to read too much into a casual remark from them. I tried hard at LC, looking back I guess I thought that it could be an opportunity to somehow show her what a great person she was losing and "win" her back by being there for her emotionally. It wound up tearing me apart even worse ... waiting for the phone call, hoping for an email or text message ... it was torture. Ultimately I learned a lot more about her new life without me than I needed to know. NC sure hasn't been easy, but LC was even more painful ... I wish you all the best. Blazer Link to comment
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