he moved in with another chick...and wouldn't tell me

[alicat216]

Okay, this might get kind of confusing, and for that, I apologize profusely. So I've been seeing this guy Dan for a few months now, and everything's been cool. For the first two months of the relationsip, I actually lived with him in his house with his roommate and his roommate's girl, but then they moved to an apartment, and his roommate's a shady, paranoid drug dealer, so no one could know where they lived. I just found out that like 2 or 3 weeks ago, my boyfriend moved out of the apartment and into his best friend, Ashley's, place. No problem, they're best friends...nothing sexual about their relationship whatsoever, and I know that for a fact (his best friend, Ashley, is his ex roommate's [the drug dealer] ex fiancee of 3 years, and he would be KILLED if anything sexual EVER happened between them). The thing is, Dan never mentioned it. All of our friends knew, and he didn't bring it up once. I had to find out from his brother's girlfriend, who only told me because I thought it was strange that his bed was in his brother's apartment. So here's what I'm wondering: if him moving in with Ashley was completely innocent, why wouldn't he tell me? I'm not the jealous type, I'm not the type to go and accuse anyone of doing anything. If he'd told me that he moved in with her, I would have said, 'oh that's cool, I can finally know where you live again" or something along those lines. So what do you think? Is he sleeping with her or is it really as innocent as he says it is? It's a 1-bedroom place...but supposedly she sleeps on a bed in the living room or something and he has the bedroom...is that fishy too?

[Genesis]

I do not know you never know these days. I know of people who dates others ex's and do not think that much about it. How long have you known this guy? I think he did not tell you because you have not been dating that long. 3 months is the trail period for most relationships so, a whole lot of information may not be given out at this point.

 

He may have something going with her and he may not. He may did not want to tell you because maybe he will be moving to his own place in a while, or maybe he is hiding something? He may wanted to wait to tell you because the whole thing sounds strange and wanted to find the right time to tell, you so you would not get upset about it. I would not be really comfortable with that living arrangement but I guess you really have no choice but to accept it.

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Hey alicat

 

Yea trust means so much in a relationship hey. I was in a slightly similar situation where I felt my gf hid something from me. There's not a lot you can do except for tell him how you feel and trust him. He probably just didn't want to tell you (so you wouldn't have to worry) or hasn't mentioned it to you yet, perhapds it could be due to the fact that he may not know how?

 

Happy Heb