Contact with your ex, is it good or bad?

[jd21]

I think I might have just made a huge mistake. I called my ex. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and he said I'm his best friend and he still wants me in his life. Well I made it clear to him that I couldn't just be friends with him, it'd be too painful. He eventually agreed that I was right, maybe we shouldn't talk for now. Well I've been missing him so much and I realized that Sunday is his sister's bday (I was very close to his family) so I called him to tell him to wish her a happy bday from me. I couldn't help it. I got his voicemail so I left a message. I don't know if this'll help or just make me fel worse. I think it'll be easier to get over him if we have no contact but I also don't want to completely be out of each other's lives in case he changes his mind about us. Please help.

[Down-In-A-Hole]

Don't worry, if he wants back he will try and contact you. Like everyone else says, do not stay in contact if you want to heal after the break up. Good luck and keep posting if you need anything.

[bzborow1]

yeah i agree with the previous poster, as did you yourself! Listen to your head, not your heart here. The fact is he broke up with you, so it's over. It's hard now, but you shouldn't talk to him anymore until you can see him and not think of him as anything but a friend. If you can do that, then perhaps you two can still be friends, but if not, then maybe it's best to just part ways.

 

Problems are tough, but the solutions are quite simple.

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Why didn't you just call her sister lol? Weren't you's close?

 

I think you should avoid contact, I don't think you're over him yet...

 

Smile, you'll find someone else soon

Happy Heb

[inastate]

I agree with Heb, it doesn't sound like you're over him and its probably not a good idea to contact him until you feel its not too painful to be friends with him.