Cyne Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 Ok, I like this girl I train with (we do martial arts/gymnatics together) and the age difference is when she turns 17 I'll be turning 23 (because our b-days are only 2 weeks apart). Now, I know people say like "oh, no that's way too young", but the way I'm leaning toward is, the level of maturity that the two people have and that age is only a number. What do you guys (and girls) think? I mean, she's definitely very compatible, which is a rare thing for me to find and she has that level of maturity beyond her age, but I'd like some opinions. I'd appreciate it a lot, thanks in advance! -Cyne
LostInMyThoughts Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 within reason (ie not something like 23 year olds dating 12 year olds) I think age-differences are minor. My belief is that with her being 17, you should be aware that she is still developing into the person she will eventually become. At 17 she still has a lot of major events coming up. Just something to be aware of.
Cyne Posted October 4, 2007 Author Posted October 4, 2007 Yeah I understand that, but is that your way of saying I shouldn't? =\
Idocsteve Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 When I was in my mid 20's I chaperoned high schools on ski trips. I met a 17 year old on one of those trips. One of the best relationships I ever had, if not the one with the most depth... It was beneficial to both of us. I would help her study for her Regents, and then we would...uh...you know. Just remember..."17 can get you 20 (years)". It might not be worth it.
Cyne Posted October 4, 2007 Author Posted October 4, 2007 I'm not concerned about sex right now, I care about the girl in terms of personality and matching. I'm talking dating/relationships without the sex until she's 18...
LostInMyThoughts Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Well a) check the age of consent laws. and b) all I'm saying is be aware that you may have similar maturity levels, but she will be changing (aka growing up). Thats all.
Idocsteve Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 I'm not concerned about sex right now, I care about the girl in terms of personality and matching. I'm talking dating/relationships without the sex until she's 18... Sure, until you break up with her or do something else to piss her off and she screams "statuatory rape!"
Leonhart Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Ok, I like this girl I train with (we do martial arts/gymnatics together) and the age difference is when she turns 17 I'll be turning 23 (because our b-days are only 2 weeks apart). Now, I know people say like "oh, no that's way too young", but the way I'm leaning toward is, the level of maturity that the two people have and that age is only a number. What do you guys (and girls) think? I mean, she's definitely very compatible, which is a rare thing for me to find and she has that level of maturity beyond her age, but I'd like some opinions. I'd appreciate it a lot, thanks in advance! -Cyne It's not too young, provided you're both on the same level. I know of a couple who started dating when she was like 16 or 17 and he was 21 or 22. They're still together now, a couple years later. They get along great. Both awesome people!
Cyne Posted October 4, 2007 Author Posted October 4, 2007 Thanks Leonhart, I'm strongly agreeing now, that is age is only a number and the it's the maturity combined with compatibility that counts.
OOHMY Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 You can say a young female is mature, but you never really know. You see her in your martial arts class, you don't know if shes dating anyone, and you don't quite know her too well. Thats good you wait till after she was 18, people can say you can find someone your age etc. If you guys get along, the chemistry is there and you guys just click, go for it! Its nothing bad if she feels the same way!
CarnelianButterfly Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 Age is a number, date the person, not the age. If you like her and she likes you, go for it. She's over the age of consent in the majority of the states (if not all).
confusedtroubled77 Posted October 4, 2007 Posted October 4, 2007 I am pretty sure that 17 in most states can't claim staturatory rape, need to check on that to be sure but I think it is 15 and under that staturatory rape can be screamed. Personally I hate when people do that especially women that do that cause they are pissed because they got dumped, I mean get real girl! Anyway, 6 years isn't that big of an age difference for consenting adults which she will be when she turns 18. I would ask her what her feelings on the matter are. I know when I was 17 I was very mature for my age because of the way I was raised, or actually I pretty much raised myself as both my parents were career driven and were gone most of the time. How long will it be until she turns 18? Go for it you will never know what could have been you can only know what will happpen if you act.
CandyKins Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 The more you think about the age difference in a negative way the more you get the chance of judging her. She has a good level of maturity, what's the problem of being with her? Unless you judge her lol. I suggest before you date make sure there is friendship.
beauty21 Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 In some states the age of consent is 17. So I don't think you need to worry about statutory rape charges. When I was 17, my boyfriend was 22. We were together 4 years after that. So you never know. If she's mature, you may have a keeper.
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